As many of you may remember, my father died a couple of weeks ago. We had a memorial service where he lived, in AZ. My family wants to have another service where he spent most of his life, in WI. My mother wants to hold the service, which will be an evening Mass and reception, on the Mon, Tues, or Wed either the week before or the week after my wedding. I'm just finding out about this timing via a family email the sister who is making the arrangements sent. No dates are set in stone for the memorial, as of yet.
As many of you may also remember, this is not my first wedding. My siblings have all been to my prior weddings and all of them have indicated that they would like to come to this one, too. However, the time/travel/hotel commitment of coming to town twice in a short period of time OR staying in a hotel for that many nights will work a hardship for at least some of them (most, actually).
To me, the priority is my dad's service. It means the most to my mom, and I wouldn't have it any other way. My question is - do I let my siblings know that the priority, if they have to set one, is dad's service and that my feelings will NOT be hurt if they choose to attend that and can't make the wedding, too? Or is that a given, and I'm giving too much importance to myself/my wedding day? Should I just not say anything?