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Invites to Showers vs. Wedding

cjthornton21cjthornton21 member
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We are getting married in GA, but I grew up in TN.  My mom originally wanted to have a separate reception in TN to accommodate those that live there.  This got to be too much for us and we are just having a wedding shower there. 

The shower will be open to the congregation of the church where I grew up and I'd love to see as many there that want to come, but do I have to invite all of those people that are invited to the shower to the wedding too?  That will be WAY too many...and I'm afraid the guest list will be out of control. 
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Re: Invites to Showers vs. Wedding

  • thesequelthesequel
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    Anybody invited to a pre-wedding party gets a wedding invite.

    Good luck!
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  • redheadfsuredheadfsu member
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    Do not issue them shower invites (unless you are inviting them to the wedding). If it is appropriate in your church, then have the pastor or bulletin board give details about the shower & that all are welcome.

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  • aragx6aragx6 member
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    I believe church and work showers are the exemption to that rule.

    Your family is all getting invited to the wedding though right?

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  • mica178mica178 member
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    Church showers are the exception to the rule, but the shower should be thrown by someone from the church, not from someone in your family.  
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  • cjthornton21cjthornton21 member
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    Yes, all of my family is invited.  The invitation would be put into the bulletin and announced as well as others outside of the church, but still in TN, receiving invitations.  Those getting the actual invitations would also get the wedding invitations, just not all of the congregation.
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  • MattsPenguinMattsPenguin member
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    I just had a very similar situation, although I was a bit blindsided.  We are getting married in Cincinnati, but my FI's family had a church shower in Tennessee.

    The shower was announced in the bulletin and was at the church.  I was told by the girls on here that it's okay not to invite all of these people to the wedding.  It's a bit of a southern tradition.

    Don't stress about it!
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  • cjthornton21cjthornton21 member
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    edited April 2011
    My mom is a huge part of the church...as well as my grandparents and other extended family, so I think we are good there!  Thank you all for your input, I feel much better!!!
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  • specialk84specialk84
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    edited April 2011
    I thought church showers and work showers were the exception.  I could be wrong, but that seems to be the prevailing thought around here.

    Edit: My post took it's good sweet time to show up.
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