My brother can't make any date we picked! He is in the military. SAD!

Knottie_22382005

I have two brothers in the military. My twin will be able to be there but not my younger brother. I am close to both of them so I am upset that  my younger brother can't make it. He will be in Buds (Navy SEAL training), and he won't have any leave whatsoever. I feel like a horrible person getting married without him being there since he is so important to me and my FI. If we waited for him, I might not ever get married!  It is already hard enough trying to figure out a date so my twin can be there because he will be a groomsman. I feel absolutely terrible though. You just never know about military schedules but that does not make me feel any better about the situation. The only way to have him there is to have a Wedding this year late July or early August and that just won't happen financially. Ugh I am so upset! Has something like this ever happened to you?

arendiva

Is there any way you could sykpe the ceremony so he can still watch and feel included?

lyndausvi

I haven't but my BFF had that problem.  She didn't know until 2 days before the wedding if her brother was going to make it.   Luckily he was able to be there, but she just had to accept he might not be.

GL

Knottie_22382005

When my twin brother was in Buds a couple years ago, we never got to skype him. My parents got a phone call once in a while but that's it. Ugh! 

Weezy56

My husband's brother is in the service and was unable to make the wedding due to training in Korea. My cousin was also doing FEMA training during our wedding and they would not let her take any leave. To add insult to injury they were also in the wedding party. It sucked, but there was nothing any of us could do about it. We missed them very much though. I've been there, I feel your pain!

Knottie_22382005

Thank you @TXKristan!

[Deleted User]

I'm currently in the service until after my wedding, when I'll be married into the service and back to being a civilian, myself.  See if he can record a Skype "well wishes" video you can play at the video and if you can record the ceremony and some of the reception for him to see later.  That way it will feel like he was included both for him and you.

I'm sure he'll be sad to miss it but as you said, the schedules are always changing.  Who knows, maybe you'll get lucky.  As long as you and your family understand why he can't be there and it certainly sounds like you do, then that's really all you can do.  Your brother will(should) be happy for you no matter what and I'm sure he wishes he could be there.

Good luck!