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Including fiance's family in bridal party

jamanz32jamanz32
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I never thought coming up with a bridal party would be difficult.

My sister will be my MOH.  I have no other siblings or close cousins to include.  My fiance doesn't have a brother, and he just has to choose a friend to be his BM.  I would like to include his sisters/nieces in the bridal party.

I'm not sure how to proceed.  His sisters are older (52 and 45).  The older one has an 18 year-old daughter; the younger one has a 14 year-old daughter and an 11 year-old son.  They all live very far away from us and we haven't seen them in a long time.

To include them all creates a large wedding party that I don't really want and doesn't really fit with the small event we are planning.  To include just his sisters and not his nieces seems strange (and vice versa).  Any suggestions?
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  • ski2playski2play member
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    I agree, just include his sisters.  That is a nice gesture.  No need to go larger!
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  • jessicabessicajessicabessica member
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    Does your FI want to include his siblings and nieces and nephews in the bridal party?  If not, or if you don't feel comfortable including some but not all of them, don't have them in the bridal party; it's still an honor to be a guest at a wedding, or you could see if you can have them do readings during the ceremony.  Even if they are "just" guests, you can still invite them to the rehearsal dinner since they are immediate family without having to open up the RD to all of your out of town guests.  
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  • whitsywhitsy
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    Jessica echoed my thoughts. If you're not that close to them, and your FI doesn't care either way about including them in the WP, then don't. Your WP needs to be whoever you are closest to.
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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    He can have his sisters be groomswomen, but at age 52, I doubt his oldest sister would want to. Or the other one for that matter.

    I had my SILs do readings for us, which worked well.
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  • HockeyFan4HockeyFan4 member
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    I was going to suggest having them do readings. 

    One of my brothers officiated our wedding, the other did a reading. 
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  • jamanz32jamanz32
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    Thank you everyone for the suggestions!  I love the idea of doing readings.  :D
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