I need some advice. I have a pretty big wedding party, which I am learning know was a terrible idea, and I am not that fussy of a bride or looking for my party to spend a lot. With that in mind the maid of honor is having a low cost shower for me at one of the other bridemaid's houses. I found out about this however because my MoH called me today really upset about the below situation because she isn't sure how to resolve the below issue. Not ever being a bridesmaid myself I wanted some feedback.
Because many of my bridemaids live out of state, they are doing the shower and the bachelorette party the same weekend/day. The bridesmaid whose house it is at has a friend coming in from out of state that weekend and is being very adament that this person, who I don't know at all and have never met, join us at the bachelorette party (and they will obviously be at the shower). Her reasoning is that she is already offering up the house and should be paid that respect. She didn't tell my MoH this before they all picked the date. My MoH was getting frustrated with this and spoke to me about the situation earlier, to which we decided to tell her that person couldn't come. It just seemed awkward and an usual request. Ultimately, she was told this and because of this she's opting to not attend the bachelorette party at all because she feels shafted.
I can understand her perspective but feel like better planning should have taken place, and having a stranger at your bachelorette party seems awkward to me. It means a lot to me to spend time with these special ladies, and don't know what to do from here.
What should be done in this situation? Does she have a point? Should we reassess the situation and suggest she invite her friend? I just don't know what to do since I've never been a bridesmaid myself.