Wedding invitations

jac3345

hi
A guest I want to invite to our wedding has already told me that he can't make it. What I want to know is would it be in bad taste to still send an invitation because we would still like them to send a gift?

Calypso1977

things can change.  if you want him there, invite him (especially if he already received an STD - you have to).

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]hi A guest I want to invite to our wedding has already told me that he can't make it. What I want to know is would it be in bad taste to still send an invitation because we would still like them to send a gift?
Posted by jac3345[/QUOTE]

<div>No it's not in bad taste to still send the invite, since yuo are supposed to do that anyways.  But your reasoning for asking disgusts me.</div>

Habs2Hart

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[QUOTE]In Response to Wedding invitations : No it's not in bad taste to still send the invite, since yuo are supposed to do that anyways.  <strong>But your reasoning for asking disgusts me.
</strong>Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

Co-signed

mica178

People's plans change.  That guest might be able to make the wedding.  If that person is important to you, I'd still send the invitation.

Your friends and family will send gifts or not send gifts regardless of receiving an official invitation.  We received gifts from some people who were not invited.  We didn't receive gifts from some people we sent invitations to.  You should send the invitations to indicate a desire for their presence, not a desire for presents.

waltzingmatilda13

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[QUOTE]hi A guest I want to invite to our wedding has already told me that he can't make it. What I want to know is would it be in bad taste to still send an invitation because we would still like them to send a gift?
Posted by jac3345[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yes, it would be in bad taste to send him an invite because you expect a gift. You should send him an invite because you want to invite him to your wedding and realize his plans might have changed since you talked to him. 

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TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Invitations =/= gifts. If they did, you could send 500 invitations to people you've never met and then they'd be forced to buy you a gift, right?

LionyLoo

Wow. I bet OP is a bit embarrased after reading response ........... I would be.

LionyLoo

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding invitations : Better to have someone online tell you your plan is rude than have your family/friends disgusted by your behavior.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

Totally agree. The wow was for the original question, not the responses. =O)

Wiscisbliss

I wonder if OP meant to say:  Friend said they could not come, but we want to send an inviation anyway but do not want to seem gift grabby? 

Right OP? 

Mrs.B6302007

I've heard a lot of things on the knot, but this is the first time I've heard this.

Wow.

mespence47

OP - you give new girls a bad name. Jerk.

mica178

mespence -- watch it with the language.

Brandiewine11

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[QUOTE]hi A guest I want to invite to our wedding has already told me that he can't make it. What I want to know is would it be in bad taste to still send an invitation because we would still like them to send a gift?
Posted by jac3345[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, it would be rude to send an invite just to get a gift. Send the invite if you would want him to attend your wedding, whether or not he brought a gift.</div><div>
</div><div>I hope you're not one of those brides who hopes to make a profit off her wedding.</div>

mespence47

Mica, Eeks! Sorry! I didn't know that was a no-use word. Won't do it again!  

mica178

mespence -- "jerk" isn't a horrible word, it's just not good to apply it (or anything) directly to a person.  No name calling would have been a better way of saying it.