Reception Seating.

dogula

My daughter is getting married next month and we are starting to think about the seating plan for her reception.  We don't have alot of people on my side of the family and even less on the grooms side. 

What I'm wondering is can I seat the grooms mother and her siblings with the brides grandparents & uncle?  And can I seat my siblings and their spouses with my husband and myself?  I don't know if there is protcol for this or can I do whatever I please?

All opinions are welcome 

Simply Fated

There is no real protocol, but I'd just make sure that people are sitting with others they'll pretty much get along with.

If it involves the in-laws family, I'd check with the groom's mother and see if she has a preference as to who sits at her table.

LeiselEB

My parents and I did the seating chart for our side of the guest list, and my husband and his parents did theirs. We just gave them the number of tables they can work with, and let them do it however they choose. It was much easier this way than trying to coordinate our tables all together. 

It's fine to sit with your siblings and their spouses, or with any other of your guests. 

People won't pay too much attention to where others are seated - as long as you make sure they are comfortable where they're seated

lauralaur

Whether or not that will work is really up to them. If you think everyone would get along and they have no preference for sitting with others then it would be fine.

J&K10910

I don't like this idea.  I understand that the groom's family probably won't fill up a whole table, but I could see a lot of MOGs getting upset about not hosting their own table and being sat with the grandparents of the bride.  Do they not have any friends or other family members coming that can round out the table?  If not, I'd just let them have fewer people at their table, or ask them who else they'd like to sit there.

DramaGeek

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[QUOTE]I don't like this idea.  I understand that the groom's family probably won't fill up a whole table, but I could see a lot of MOGs getting upset about not hosting their own table and being sat with the grandparents of the bride.  Do they not have any friends or other family members coming that can round out the table?  If not, I'd just let them have fewer people at their table, or ask them who else they'd like to sit there.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes.  This was rubbing my the wrong way and I couldn't put my finger on why, but it's this.  It feels like the leftovers table, instead of the MOG/FOG's table.</div><div>
</div><div>If you want to fill up the table, do it with other family members or their close friends.  I don't have an issue mixing families, but this feels a little too high in the hierarchy to be mixing it up.</div>

roseofdeborah

My MOG table will also have fiance's friends since for a table of 10 there will be 3 family members. That's how my FI and her wanted it.