Bridesmaid question...

violetgrewe

So one of my bridesmaids recently dyed her hair hot pink- eek! How, and can, i ask her if she will perhaps not rock this do for my wedding? Should I just hope its a phase, she has always been a blonde. Thanks!

emilyinchile

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaid-question-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0b929d6a-d4aa-4525-8f30-b0864c29c7c1Post:35743fa6-0dc2-4d90-b982-4dbe34b1b706">Bridesmaid question...</a>:
[QUOTE]So one of my bridesmaids recently dyed her hair hot pink- eek! How, and can, i ask her if she will perhaps not rock this do for my wedding? Should I just hope its a phase, she has always been a blonde. Thanks!
Posted by violetgrewe[/QUOTE]

You don't. You wouldn't ask her to lose weight or get braces, you don't get to ask her to change her hair color either.

LDYGTR13

You don't.

kcscejal

You don't.  The color of her hair is her choice, not yours.  I hope you asked her to be a BM because she is a close friend, not because she's a good prop for your pictures.

Summer2011Bride

You can't and shouldn't ask her to changer her hair color or risk offending her. Like PP said, this would be like asking a BM to lose weight or otherwise alter her appearance for your wedding, which is very presumptuous. So what if she has pink hair? I think that's sort of awesome,and she should be allowed to be unique. How would you feel if you were a BM and the bride asked you to wear colored contact lenses so everyone had blue eyes or to dye your hair brown b/c she didn't want blonde. Yes, pink is not a conventional hair color, but it's part of who she is. Please accept her for that and be happy to have her.

Birdie1483

OP, what part of Kentucky are you from? Just curious

[Deleted User]

Don't do it. Obviously you asked her to be in your wedding bc she is a good friend and person, so don't judge her on her hair color.

violetgrewe

Thanks guys, i knew that would be the answer. Oh well.

I am from Lexington, where are you from Birdie? Your dog is adorable!

annakb8

You aren't getting married until next August. She will probably get tired of dying it by then and be back to blonde. Even if she still has pink hair it isn't the end of the world. People are looking at you not her. It would be really rude to ask her to change her appearance for your wedding.

mandysmear

I refuse to  believe people out there actually thing they can dictate their BP's hair.

Birdie1483

I'm in Louisville.

I would bet your BM just wanted to do it now and will change it back in time for your wedding.

ETA: Also, pink fades like hella fast.  You can't really ask her to change it, but I wouldn't stress about it. My CW died a streak of her hair purple and it had completely faded within a month.

PsyDet 2155

Don't say anything.

jessienjeremy

I am sure by your wedding she will either dye it back or it will be gone by then.  Did she say why she dyed it pink.. Just curious

noodle_oo

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaid-question-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0b929d6a-d4aa-4525-8f30-b0864c29c7c1Post:756324af-9b32-4ef6-854d-0a92c3955b2c">Re: Bridesmaid question...</a>:
[QUOTE]You aren't getting married until next August. She will probably get tired of dying it by then and be back to blonde. Even if she still has pink hair it isn't the end of the world. People are looking at you not her. It would be really rude to ask her to change her appearance for your wedding.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

Agreed.  When I saw your wedding date was Aug 2011, I definitely thought you are overreacting!!!  Seriously, that's over 8 months from now.  Don't even worry about it!  No doubt she'll be sick of it and be another color by then anyway.

lalap69

My sister was rocking pink streaks in her hair until a couple of months before her own wedding.  Worrying about this now is REALLY pre-mature.

cherbein

There's been a lot of crazy hair color posts lately or maybe those are just the ones I keep clicking on....

Either way, the answer remains the same.  Her hair color is her choice and as PP's said there is no need to stress about. 

As a blond who used to love to dye her hair red for halloween each year, it really does fade fast and once she gets some summer sun you can't even tell.  Also, if it's still pink, no big deal. She'll still look beautiful and you'll still be the center of attention as the bride.

shortee426

Why don't you just change your wedding color to pink?  Then she'll match.