The "Just Married" car decorations

TKzilla

Hey guys. I think someone brought this up in the last few months, but I was wondering: is there anyway to politely ask members of the wedding party not to decorate our car after the wedding? At my MOH's wedding, other members of her wedding party covered their car in Post-It notes, filled the glovebox with condoms and wrote (in my opinion) somewhat dirty things on the back windshield and the windows. Like... I'd be okay with something simple but I'm worried about people going overboard, and my fiance wouldn't be too crazy about his car being covered in that weird glass marker stuff. 

On the one hand, I feel like it's really presumptious if I say anything, plus I'm a Grade A Surprise Ruiner, too. But on the other hand, I was really embarassed for my MOH at her wedding, plus it was frustrating to take all the Post-Its off just so they could safely drive. I just have a feeling this is going to be an "all or nothing" issue. Either they go crazy and cover the car, or they do nothing. Am I a total buzzkill?

AJuliaNJ

IMO, the type of person who would do such an extreme type of prank is not going to be dissuaded (and may even be encouraged) by a request to not do it. Also, I'd be concerned that my request would put the idea in the head of someone who wasn't even planning on it before or would be presumptuous if no one was planning on doing it. Plus I can't think of a good way to get the word out to everyone. Is it at all possible to park your car elsewhere if you think it's likely to happen?

Belle0720

I don't know if there is a polite way to ask people not to do this, but maybe you can just decorate the car yourself. If you show your bridal party the stuff you're going to use so they know you've already got it covered maybe they will refrain.

The only time I saw people other than the bride and groom decorate their car was when my Dad got remarried. I was 11 years old and idk who did it but they wrote some dirty stuff on the windows and I was horrified. lol

Peledreamsofrain

Let your wedding party know that you dont want the car bothered, and decorate the car so that it's too nice to ruin.

Knottie_22382102

If you think your people are the type to do this....can you take your car out of the equation? Leave it at mom's house or something?

Gosh, I bet our groomsmen will do something...that'll be fun driving the entire way to Disney from NH....honk honk honk!

MoonlightSilver

We left our car at the hotel and had my MOH drive us back from the wedding. Honestly, if you're worried your friends will do this... I just would prevent it from happening. 

Jen4948

Well, you could always leave your car in a secure place and find other transportation for the day...

TKzilla

I would leave the car elsewhere but we're renting a house on the beach the week before the wedding and then hosting the ceremony and reception there, and it's two hours away from home. Do you think it would be too AW-ish to decorate it ourselves? Or would it be better to "subtly" talk to my MOH and give her an idea of what would be acceptable?

FI and I are pretty laidback, but his family would NOT appreciate dirty jokes, expletives or condoms. Like... at all.

So maybe we'll just write "Just Married" or something on a sign that can be put in the back window and maybe tie some cans if FI is okay with that. Low key. 

TKzilla

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_the-just-married-car-decorations?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bfbe809-bc8d-4f7d-8c7c-f3209b38a0dbPost:952a2219-8cc4-484a-b4bc-f837266ccb0a">Re: The "Just Married" car decorations</a>:
[QUOTE]I think your MOH will be able to keep an eye on things and talk to the people who want to decorate.  I wouldn't decorate it myself.  I think that'd be a bit too AWish.
Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

<div>That was my other concern. I don't wanna be like HEY EVERYBODY! HONK AT US BECAUSE WE JUST GOT MARRIED AND NOW WE'RE GOING TO THE HOTEL! WOOOOOOOOOOO! although, I am THAT obnoxious... :P</div>

TKzilla

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_the-just-married-car-decorations?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bfbe809-bc8d-4f7d-8c7c-f3209b38a0dbPost:3c5826aa-b5a6-4314-9107-16ad610d87f1">Re: The "Just Married" car decorations</a>:
[QUOTE]Lie.  Hide the car you are planning to use and lie about it.  
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>I was waiting for you to chime in on all this LMAO I'm going to talk to FI and see how serious he is about not wanting the car decorated. Then I'm going to not-so-subtly hint to my mom and my MOH (and hell, my junior bridesmaid too, she's the one in charge as far as she's concerned) that certain things will not be tolerated. As in "please don't draw penises on the car and please don't say anything even remotely suggesting 'consumation' because I will cut you"</div>

TKzilla

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_the-just-married-car-decorations?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bfbe809-bc8d-4f7d-8c7c-f3209b38a0dbPost:86fe7329-ab22-400f-acca-0330efb5c2fc">Re: The "Just Married" car decorations</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The "Just Married" car decorations : No, seriously, I'm telling you.  We did all of this.  We begged, we pleaded, we were stern, I teared up and almost cried at one point.  I was assured it would all be fine. Lie.  Hide the car and lie.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>omg. I think we could park it down the street at a hotel... holy mother of god! It's like on the one hand, it wouldn't be catastrophic, just annoying, if they decorated the car. But on the other hand, I worry that some bridesmaids or groomsmen may take it TOO far... and FI's family would NOT be pleased. </div><div>
</div><div>BRB gotta go find camoflage for the car...</div>

TKzilla

I'll keep all of this in mind. And probably have nightmares about a shrink-wrapped, Vaseline-covered GTI.