Help with wording!

Jenn Anne

Ok, so my best friend is getting married in October and it's a redneck theme. W'ere doing a potluck and we cant think of how to word the invitations. Yes, I've heard that it's tacky and not using proper ettquite, but thats not what we're going for. Any help with the wording would be greatly appreciated!

laurenclaire1386

dear.lord. What, praytell, constitutes a "redneck" theme?

Beachy730

The only thing I could possibly think of is to write "in lieu of gifts please bring a pot luck dish to share."  But I'm assuming she stil wants and gifts, and regardless, mentioning gifts at all is poor etiquette.  So I admit its not the best suggestion. 

Is every guest being asked to bring a dish?  Or just certain ones?  Maybe you can just put an insert into the invite about it.

kris10royal

HUH?

Umm... something along the lines of..

 "You're invited to come see the hitchin' of BRIDE to GROOM at WHERE
Please bring you best bone pickin, finger lickin dish."

hahaha.

banana468

Has she thought this through?

It's not appropriate etiquette as you know but has your friend considered the logistical issues?

Is she does opt for potluck, what provisions are in place for keeping hot food hot and cold food cold?  How is coordinated so that there is a variety?  Where will the food be brought during the ceremony?

These are just a few questions your friend should consider before she opts for people to cater her reception.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

It's hard to give you advice on the proper etiquette for doing something that goes against etiquette. However, there's an invites and paper board that might have suggestions. I don't think you'll get much support here.

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How about suggesting each invite brings a dish along with the recipe.

This allows it to be a "tasting" of all the new recipies that are given to the bride and groom.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Personally, if my best friend was doing this, I'd probably consult with the rest of the wedding part and, in lieu of a gift, pitch in to buy some Costco trays. Then supplement them with some homecooked food from her immediate family. Then she doesn't have to ask the guests to bring a dish.

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I agree that there are other alternatives too, bit if this is what she has her heart set on, then make it really fun!

andy71781

Tell your guests to not spend too much money traveling or on clothing because they will also have to buy their own food.

twilight.rose

Oh lord. Ettquite?

Please rethink this idea, and if you must go with a "redneck theme" (?), at least provide some sort of food for your guests. A hog roast or barbeque could still be fun and have a rustic/country feeling without imposing on the guests.

squirrly

There's no way to do this.  Potluck weddings are an invitation for 37 bowls of potato salad being poorly refrigerated and giving everybody salmonella. 

If you want to decorate in a style that you think fits 'redneck' that's one thing, but frankly, I find the term offensive.