How to get people to RSVP

ladybbls

I need to know if people are coming so I can create my escort cards and finalize the tables, but I am having the hardest time getting people to let me know if they're coming! I've sent emails, and they haven't responded. I don't have a lot of their phone numbers so I can't call/text them, so I've sent Facebook messages - any form of communication I know of! Does anyone have any suggestions about what to do? Thank you!

AddieCake

When was your RSVP deadline, and when is your head count due to your caterer? ETA: Wait....your bio says your wedding is in May. You surely haven't had your RSVP deadline pass yet.

vanityink

Send a final email saying if they don't get back to you by X date, you will mark them as a "no" And then do so if they don't respond.

mcda04

How early did you request a response? If you don't hear back from them count them as a no. Do you have family members that can give you their phone number?

erinlin25

You've done all you can do.  Were they sent a reply card?  If its past the deadline, make contact (I would work on hunting down their phone numbers since a email or facebook message can easily be over looked).  Say you need to know by such and such day or will not be able to accomodate them.  Don't badger them--they will either respond or they will not.  If they do not, mark them as a NO.  If they come back later and rsvp after that deadline, its up to you whether you can now accomodate them.  don't drive yourself crazy-- they are adults, its their responsibility to rsvp or reply to your message. 

Edit: I just read your wedding is in May-- you have plenty of time to get a rsvp. chill out a bit; work on getting phone numbers in case you need to call them next month.

LiLe422

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[QUOTE]I need to know if people are coming so I can create my escort cards and finalize the tables, but I am having the hardest time getting people to let me know if they're coming! I've sent emails, and they haven't responded. I don't have a lot of their phone numbers so I can't call/text them, so I've sent Facebook messages - any form of communication I know of! Does anyone have any suggestions about what to do? Thank you!
Posted by ladybbls[/QUOTE]

When is/was your RSVP date? 

You really need to track down phone numbers.  As long as your rsvp date has passed, start making calls. 

libby2483

If your wedding date in your profile is correct, it might explain why you are having so much trouble getting people to let you know if they are coming or not.  At this point, it is too early to send out invitations, let alone expect people to respond! Invitations should be sent out 6-8 weeks in advance, and a typical RSVP date is 2-4 weeks before the wedding.  Due to work schedules and other commitments, many people probably don't even know if they can attend yet, and they are probably very confused as to why you are asking them to RSVP so early.

Edit: If this is indeed the case, I think you need to just chill out for a month or so.  Then, in late April, you can try to make contact again.  

Jen4948

Give it a little time.  Get the phone numbers of everyone who hasn't RSVPd in the next month and then call them.

ladybbls

Thank you for the feedback everyone - very helpful! My wedding is on a holiday weekend in May, which is why I was advised to send out the invitations earlier than normal (people normally plan to go away for trips and things farther in advance). Also, the people I have not yet heard from are the people who don't live in this state and would need to fly in, so if they are coming, they should've made travel arrangements by now. My RSVP deadline is next month, my problem is that I made a rookie mistake - I put the RSVP deadline as the date that the venue needs to know by, but what I didn't calculate in, is that I need to know ahead of time so I can determine the # of tables, make centerpieces and escort cards, etc.  You live & learn! haha I'll def pass along this lesson to other brides

Good insight, I will wait until the RSVP deadline passes and then make phone calls and I'll use the time between now & then to find their #s.

Thank you!!