Nevermind :)

epoutlaw

Disregard post. Thanks!

GoodLuckBear14

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[QUOTE]My poor fi has this groomsman who has been friends with him since kindergarten. <strong>He has a baby due any day now</strong>yet was saying he was ready to go to PR w the others for a bachelor party and has always been ready to have fun. Now that the wedding is seven weeks away and my fiancé has been sending out emails regarding attire he claims the pants we picked were too expensive ($98) and that my fiancé was going to have to 'help him out'. My fiancé sent out a follow up, to which he replied "I'll start looking at Goodwill". It puts my fi an an awful position and terrifies me that he'll show up on my wedding day in some yellow armpitted white dress shirt and sneakers! I've suggested to my fiancé they have a chat about either considering the pants our gift or giving him an out saying I don't want you to feel obligated to be a groomsman if it will be a financial burden. But really, where is he getting the money to go on the bachelor party and golfing all the time. What should we do?
Posted by epoutlaw[/QUOTE]

<strong>HE HAS A BABY DUE ANY DAY NOW!!!!</strong>

Know what that giant sucking sound is?  It's the sound of money flying out of his wallet for the soon to be here little one.  Those suckers are expensive.

Like Stage said though, how he spends his money is absolutely none of your business.  He's probably been budgeting for a bach party for a while now but once the tyke gets here, I seriously doubt he is going to want to leave (or leave his wife to handle everything on her own).

If your FI did not PRIVATELY get a budget from each of the GM about what they could afford, he brought this on himself.  He either needs to do that now, reselect the clothes or pony up the money.

Sorry.

AddieCake

Ditto Stage and GLB. It frustrates me when people say, "He can't pay for abc for our wedding but can pay for xyz for himself." Heck yeah b/c sometimes people put their own well-being before someone else's wedding. And if your groom didn't ask for a budget, he shouldn't expect the guys to spend that much on a pair of pants. Maybe he felt he had to get the money together for the bachelor party so he wouldn't let his friend down or be left out.

ridedatbike

If I was his wife and he left me either super pregnant or all by myself with his newborn baby for a bachelor party I might have a huge problem lol. But im sure there's a cheaper pair of pants out there that look almost identical. Pps are right if your husband didn't consider each of their budgets in private thar could be his bad.

epoutlaw

Thanks for the input!

Lored

I love when people post a question asking for advice and opinions and when they don't hear what they want they just delete the post and ignore what everyone says. What's the point??

epoutlaw

It was a much needed attitude adjustment and I do appreciate it but ya, I got the answer I needed and frankly Ive had the flu and shouldnt have posted in the first place since I'm bored and tired and not in my right mind. Now I'm just embarrassed and would love to drop it. Groomsman will be accommodated however my groom sees fit but I will not deter him from helping him out. Thank you everyone!

Simply Fated

I have no idea how much men's dress pants usually cost, but $98 for any pants sounds like a lot to me. The last dress I bought was about $98, but that was, you know, the entire outfit, minus shoes. For a guy, there's still the shirt and the jacket and the shoes and what ever other doodads, like ties or what ever. Surely there are cheaper alternatives somewhere, no?

epoutlaw

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[QUOTE]I have no idea how much men's dress pants usually cost, but $98 for any pants sounds like a lot to me. The last dress I bought was about $98, but that was, you know, the entire outfit, minus shoes. For a guy, there's still the shirt and the jacket and the shoes and what ever other doodads, like ties or what ever. Surely there are cheaper alternatives somewhere, no?
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]



We figured it was cheaper than a tux rental, they aren't wearing jackets and we are buying their ties. But the pants were my grooms choice, we found some others but he liked these best. Plus some have been purchased so we can't switch now

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nevermind :) : We figured it was cheaper than a tux rental, they aren't wearing jackets and we are buying their ties. But the pants were my grooms choice, we found some others but he liked these best. Plus some have been purchased so we can't switch now
Posted by epoutlaw[/QUOTE]
I would take a look around and try to find some pants that are similar, but less expensive if your fiance can't (or won't) swing the cash to cover him.
I doubt most people will notice if the guy's pants are slightly different. And, honestly, no one will even care if they're a lot different.

TKzilla

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nevermind :) : We figured it was cheaper than a tux rental, they aren't wearing jackets and we are buying their ties. But the pants were my grooms choice, we found some others but he liked these best. Plus some have been purchased so we can't switch now
Posted by epoutlaw[/QUOTE]

<div>If the pants are already $100...</div><div>
</div><div>My FI and his groomsmen are renting Vera Wang tuxes from Men's Wearhouse and I think they're like $130ish. That's for the pants, the shoes, the socks, the tie, the vest, and two shirts. They aren't wearing jackets either. I think you can find another (just as good) option.</div>

Gustafson28

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[QUOTE]I like when they change the title to blank or nevermind so everyone knows where to find the drama. It is like a fricking bat signal.
Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]




Amazing! I kinda snorted when I read this ha ha.

bridalmarch

I believe the tux rental for the guys is $140 from MW, includes pants, shirt, vest, tie, shoes, pocket square, and I think even cufflinks. It really all depends on what the budget was or if our GM was asked for his.