Is this tacky or just stupid??

renjon7798

So my FI and I are eloping to Vegas and to be honest, I don't want to spend the money for a huge wedding reception when we get back.  (this is the 2nd marriage for us both).  It is ok for us to simply host a dinner at a nice restaurant for about 20 people and the rent a party bus and hit our favorite clubs?  We enjoying going out with our friends every once in a while and we want to make the reception as much "us" as possible.  It would really just be a bunch of our friends who cant make it to Vegas going with us.

Is this totally insane?

Avion22

I think what have described sounds awesome.  

annakb8

You could just not do anything and hang out with your friends like normal. 

But if you really want to have an AHR I don't think this is a bad idea. 

specialk84

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[QUOTE]So my FI and I are eloping to Vegas and to be honest, I don't want to spend the money for a huge wedding reception when we get back.  (this is the 2nd marriage for us both).  It is ok for us to simply host a dinner at a nice restaurant for about 20 people and the rent a party bus and hit our favorite clubs?  We enjoying going out with our friends every once in a while and we want to make the reception as much "us" as possible.  It would really just be a bunch of our friends who cant make it to Vegas going with us. Is this totally insane?
Posted by renjon7798[/QUOTE]

<div>By choosing to elope, you're making the decision to not have a reception, pre-wedding parties, etc. I think it's rude to invite everyone to a party designed to thank them for attending an event they were not invited to.</div><div>
</div><div>That being said, a reception at a nice restaurant for a small group is a perfectly acceptable idea. As a guest, I would be perfectly fine with that, provided you hosted me properly, but I would not go clubbing with you.</div>

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I think this sounds bitchin.

tenofcups4me

You can do as much or little as you want. It's fine to do nothing. But your idea sounds fun.

Avion22

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[QUOTE]In Response to Is this tacky or just stupid?? : By choosing to elope, you're making the decision to not have a reception, pre-wedding parties, etc. <strong>I think it's rude to invite everyone to a party designed to thank them for attending an event they were not invited to. That being said, a reception at a nice restaurant for a small group is a perfectly acceptable idea.</strong> As a guest, I would be perfectly fine with that, provided you hosted me properly, but I would not go clubbing with you.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

<div>She's not talking about a reception, she simply wants to host some friends at a fancy dinner then take them out for drinks.   It's not to thank them for attending an event they didn't attend, but just a fun way to celebrate with friends.</div>

mollyehren

I had a ffriend who did this and it was a blast

achiduck

Sounds like fun to me!

Amali714

We hear this phrase on this website all the time: "it's your wedding." 

Your elopement idea sounds like fun. To me, a reception is a celebration of your marriage...it is about the you and your FI...it shouldn't be designed to thank the people for attending. If they don't want to celebrate with you then oh well, I'm sure you guys will have a blast! 

jeff0908

This sounds like alot of fun

LittleMissCutiePie

Sounds fun! Just make sure if you are turning this into a dinner party type situation, you are paying for their dinners. I had a friend who invited a whole whack of people out for a dinner to celebrate her one year anniversary, and when we got to the very expensive restaurant, she stated right off the bat that if we were getting anything above twenty dollars, we'd have to pay the difference. Needless to say, I slipped away unnoticed and was glad. Apparently more people left early because she tried to get random people to buy her shots.

renjon7798

Oh no!!  We are paying for the food and drinks at the restaurant.  The average meal runs $15 pp there so we are budgeting $30pp to include drinks.  20 people at the most.  Now when it comes to going to the clubs, my FI works with a lot of the managers at the bars/clubs we want to go to so he's sure we can get a group rate cover charge, which we will pay.  But are we responsible for buying the drinks at the clubs/bars?

Girlie1030

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[QUOTE]We hear this phrase on this website all the time: "it's your wedding."  Your elopement idea sounds like fun. <strong>To me, a reception is a celebration of your marriage...it is about the you and your FI...it shouldn't be designed to thank the people for attending. </strong>If they don't want to celebrate with you then oh well, I'm sure you guys will have a blast! 
Posted by Amali714[/QUOTE]

Um, no. 

Ciardasully

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[QUOTE]We don't want any gifts.  We are combining households and have too much as it is.  The only "wedding" reference would be my wanting to wear a little white dress.  We have a lot of friends who want to go to Vegas with us but can't afford to.  We will pay for the dinner and that will be the "reception" if you will.  Again, no gifts or anything.  Then we want to go out and have what my FI calls a "post wedding bachelor/bachelorette party!"  We aren't even looking to send out invites.  I don't want a reception or anything.  We started planning a big wedding and threw that idea out.
Posted by renjon7798[/QUOTE]

I think it's a good idea!

sweetcanadian1979

I think it sounds like fun. We are doing a party bus for our bachelor/ette party. I would talk to the company though, we will not be getting charged cover, because the bar is guarunteed to get so much income from your party. Just a thought.