Unruly Guests bringing uninvited unruly guests!!

td08sweetpea

We had our bachelor/bachelorette parties together this past saturday at our home. Our BM and MOH invited the rest of the wedding party and two very close friends. (Other wise a closed party...all things considered.) My MOH is the girlfriend of one of the grooms brothers. This brother unintentionally invited a couple that was invited to the wedding... and they brought two other girls with them (that nobody would ever invited to the wedding.) and it caused an uproar among a few guests that got entirely out of hand. They were asked to leave and not an hour later came back in another vehicle. After entering the unlocked house of the person whom invited them and trashed their house in a way that could be considered a practical joke. Call me crazy... but I don't think that I want this couple at the wedding. Is it inappropriate to uninvite an invited guest?

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Yes it is rude to uninvite someone. If they were already sent an invite, there is nothing you can do about it. I doubt they will try anything at the wedding (if they even come), and if they do you can have them escorted out. And you could tell them that you weren't happy about what happended and if they try anything at your wedding, they will be escorted out.  During bach parties, people tend to get a little wild and crazy sometimes.

baystateapple

Unless the unruly behavior of your guests involved trying to sleep with your groom, then no, you can't uninvite them.  Sorry.  It's really rude to revoke an invitation of a guest.

JanoBean75

Wait -- if OP/FI or their parents didn't invite these people, I think it's fine to try to correct the mistake -- this was just their b-parties (combined, it seems). It sounds like her FBIL invited someone who in turn invited someone not on the wedding guest list. OP, correct me if I'm wrong. Your post lacks clarity. If my MOH invited some random people to my b-party that I didn't know, I'd be less than thrilled about it because those people aren't MY friends.

Night_Sprite

It seems like in this situation, you'd be asking them to come wreck your wedding.

waltzingmatilda13

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[QUOTE]It seems like in this situation, you'd be asking them to come wreck your wedding.
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

That's what I got out of that. And you would be responsible for damages and clean-up, so I would uninvite. Sorry, I know that goes against the grain, but I wouldn't want to pay for that.

squirrly

If YOU invited them, you're stuck with them.  If somebody else did it, you need to let them know ASAP that the invite wasn't real. 

laladypoet

UNRULY!

laladypoet

seriously, it pisses me off when the op doesn't come back and address the questions. good luck with all that, "they."

pizzanfries4me

I see that I'm going against what most everyone said - but I would uninvite them.  It is you and your Husbands day and you can do whatever you want. Who cares about whats nice and whats right... you do what you guys want and think is best! (but I'm stubborn and I am willing to take no nonsense, but this is what I would say)

td08sweetpea

Thank you everyone. The COUPLE that brought the two uninvited girls were invited by FI's parents. They are not friends of either of us. The couple are friends with the FI's Brother and and the two uninvited are friends of the couple. They cause trouble everywhere they go. In fact we found out that next day that the uninvited four went to the FI's Brother's house and completely destroyed it after they were asked to leave the party. So now tell me if it is rude and unrightous.

JanoBean75

So basically they weren't invited by you and your FI. Make sure you correct the situation by telling them there was a mistake. And make sure your venue staff knows to escort them out if they show up. And lock up your house!