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cac7777

Saw these and wondered: what's the general feeling about informal postcard STDs that are all addressed to "Mr. and Mrs." instead of using titles like "Dr."? 

AbbeyS2011

If you know the person you are addressing holds the title "Dr." and that is what they use all the time, then they should be addressed with their title. If you have no previous knowledge of the title, then I think Mr. and Mrs. is fine. 

There are some physicians/persons who have doctorate degrees who do not mind being called Mr., Miss, Ms. or Mrs. outside of their professional realm, and others who are adamant about using the title all the time. 

KelaRenee

Most PhDs don't go by Dr. except in a professional capacity but I think most MDs do. 

opalsky007

If you're going informal, you should eliminate all titles--i.e., no "Mr. and Mrs." either. 

If you just eliminate professional titles, that's kind of disrespectful to those folks. And I agree with PP--"Dr." is not necessary for any but medical doctors, while some folks with advanced degrees do appreciate it. You know your guests best.

cac7777

Yeah... the reason I was wondering is because my parents are always getting wedding invites from people (even super formal ones) that just say "Mr. and Mrs." even though my dad has a PhD. It would feel really weird, honestly, to get something addressed to "Dr. and Mrs." as the only people who call him "doctor" are the grad students he supervises... So, does this mean that if someone never goes by their professional title, you don't have to address their invite with it either? 

jessicabessica

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[QUOTE]Yeah... the reason I was wondering is because my parents are always getting wedding invites from people (even super formal ones) that just say "Mr. and Mrs." even though my dad has a PhD. It would feel really weird, honestly, to get something addressed to "Dr. and Mrs." as the only people who call him "doctor" are the grad students he supervises... So, does this mean that if someone never goes by their professional title, you don't have to address their invite with it either? 
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<div>If you know what the person prefers, I would address the invite accordingly.  If you don't know, MDs (and I would add vets and dentists) get "Dr." in social settings, and other doctoral degrees get Mr./Ms./Mrs. in social settings.  </div>