Unpopular opinions?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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kkchisholm

I don't like lady gaga.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Mine: While I understand that some people might be inviting 156 single people to their wedding and plus ones get expensive, I REALLY think you should try to accomodate dates for people, if at all possible. It makes your guests feel more comfortable, which is the entire point of etiquette.

andyandhillary

I don't like Friends (the show). 

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions? : Risk for breast cancer actually goes up for the first month or so of pregnancy because of the surge in hormones, but after that it goes down. <strong>Some of the drugs used to induce abortion are hormonal, so that may be a reason for the link they're claiming exists between abortion and cancer.</strong>
Posted by cac847[/QUOTE]

Do you mean late-term abortions? Because from my understanding of it, it's usually optional narcotics during the procedure, antibiotics and painkillers afterward and that's it.

ETA: Referring to abortions in the 1st trimester.

ricksang

I don't think women should uproot their lives for their husbands, unless they are going to another country or it is for the better.

cac847

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions? : Do you mean late-term abortions? Because from my understanding of it, it's usually optional narcotics during the procedure, antibiotics and painkillers afterward and that's it.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

I don't know a whole lot about it, or which drugs are used in which stage, but the hormonal drugs I had in mind (mifepristone, dinoprostone, cytotec) stimulate uterine contractions to expel uterine contents. Some of them can also be used to dilate the cervix and induce labor at term, but when aborting they're used in higher doses.

Is there a specific antibiotic that you're talking about for the abortion or just antibiotics in general?

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions? : I don't know a whole lot about it, or which drugs are used in which stage, but the hormonal drugs I had in mind (mifepristone, dinoprostone, cytotec) stimulate uterine contractions to expel uterine contents. Some of them can also be used to dilate the cervix and induce labor at term, but when aborting they're used in higher doses. Is there a specific antibiotic that you're talking about for the abortion or just antibiotics in general?
Posted by cac847[/QUOTE]

I don't have any specific antibiotics in mind, just in general to prevent infection in the uterus afterward. Please don't tell me some antibiotics are linked to breast cancer! :(

ETA: It's not my area of expertise either, but I believe that the medications for uterine contractions and softening the cervix are only necessary if it's past 12 weeks.

salt78

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[QUOTE]I don't think women should uproot their lives for their husbands, unless they are going to another country or it is for the better.
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

<div>Agree.</div>

goheels05

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[QUOTE]I don't think HM registries are that bad. I don't like Fischy. That was a lie, I *HEART* YOU FISCHY!!!
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

I had to read that twice before I picked my jaw up off the floor.

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]I don't think women should uproot their lives for their husbands, unless they are going to another country or <strong>it is for the better</strong>.
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

But couldn't you say that if they want to do it than they think it <em>is</em> for the better?  Unless they're being forced to and then there's a lot more wrong with that marriage.

temerityjane

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions? : But couldn't you say that if they want to do it than they think it is for the better? 
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

This. I know that I got the side eye from some people in my life when I left everyone and everything I know to be out here with Buddy, but we certainly feel like it was for the better.

ricksang

I am talking about situations where the wife is doing harm to herself in some way so, no, I don't like the idea of a woman leaving behind  all she has accomplished for her husband.

SwedishChick2011

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[QUOTE]I don't think women should uproot their lives for their husbands, unless they are going to another country or it is for the better.
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]
I agree.  So much so that I got divorced from my first husband and don't regret it one bit.

cac847

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions? : I don't have any specific antibiotics in mind, just in general to prevent infectionin the uterus afterward. Please don't tell me some antibiotics are linked to breast cancer! :( ETA: It's not my area of expertise either, but I believe that the medications for uterine contractions and softening the cervix are only necessary if it's past 12 weeks.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

As far as I know no antibiotics have been linked to any kind of cancer. I dug through my computer to find the med cards I had to make for maternity... and you're correct, the last two drugs I listed are used in the second trimester. The mifeprostone though, is RU-whatever the numbers are, and that's used in the first two months. I misinterpreted what you said as the antibiotic was the abortifacient and just the painkillers were for afterwords... so yeah, it's just for preventing infection afterwards :)

JessAndTrav

I think that the "uprooting" is just on how you view it.

If the husband has some kind of an opportunity to move, and the wife works in a field that's not based on region, if they both agree that it's "for the better" then I say go for it.

It's different when it's the husband lives in Missouri and is saying, "I wanna try out for the Lakers." He's 5'2" and can't make a ball of paper into the trash can, but decides that moving to LA will increases his chances of making the team...and if the wife gets on board with that, then I feel that she's BSC.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I explained in Evabee's post that FI is actually moving for ME. Hopefully he will have a job that is portable at that time (he's looking now). Is that any different? Yes, it is for my education, but we think that it will be best for my career and for our shared goals in life.

And I did know someone who moved from Texas to LA for his wife's music career. She then divorced him 2 years later. But the point is, he was supportive of that career decision and was in a field (graphic design) where he wasn't tied to one spot.

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE] And I did know someone who moved from Texas to LA for his wife's music career. She then divorced him 2 years later. But the point is, he was supportive of that career decision and was in a field (graphic design) where he wasn't tied to one spot.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

I think that moving for your spouse's career can be fine depending on job availability for both involved and even if it's going after a dream (becoming a singer, actor, etc.) but I also think that if you're going to try to be something that's really hard to break into like becoming a musical artist, you've got to be realistic.

I can sing, but I'm not good enough to get signed to any kind of record label, thus I don't chase a dream of becoming a famous singer.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Agreed, Jess. Supposedly she is quite good and works as a background musician at a studio now. But she's also 29, which means her options are more limited than they would be if she were 18.

My BFF also moved to LA to pursue acting when she was 25 when her husband was stationed outside the country. Again, it seemed like a good plan to them.

ricksang

Meh, my opinion still stands.

SarahSmile23

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions? : . Also... I don't think I've ever seen a pink tool in my life. That's news to me (and I'd feel like a total idiot using one, but that's beside the point).
Posted by alixzafiris[/QUOTE]

Alix, that makes me think of American's Next Top Model this week when this girl said she wouldn't sleep with a white guy because she is afraid of pink penises. I'll never be able to think of a "pink tool" the same way again.

AlexiaANDRobert

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions? : Alix, that makes me think of American's Next Top Model this week when<strong> this girl said she wouldn't sleep with a white guy because she is afraid of pink penises. I'll never be able to think of a "pink tool" the same way again.</strong>
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]

HAHAHAHA!