Wedding Invitation - Boyfriend That Doesn't Live There

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So, I thought girlfriends/boyfriends go on the outside envelope, on the next line down.

My mom's saying he doesn't go on the outside, because he doesn't live there, he only goes on the inside, but I'm not sure we're doing inside envelopes, although he can go on the RSVP, I suppose.

What's "correct" here?

AddieCake

We put both, but I'm not sure if that's the right way.

vanityink

yeah, same here. I asked my friend how she and her BF prefered their invite (friends with both, don't life together) and she told me to put both of them on her envelope to her address. got there just fine.

miranda holly

For our guests with SO's that didn't live with them, we put the guest name + SO, and guest address.  We didn't use inner envelopes.  It worked out perfectly fine.  

daveANDkristen

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[QUOTE]yeah, same here. I asked my friend how she and her BF prefered their invite (friends with both, don't life together) and she told me to put both of them on her envelope to her address. got there just fine.
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Ditto this. If you decide to have inner envelopes, I don't see the harm in putting the resident only on the outer and both names on the inner. But if it's outer only, I'd just put them both on the outer (this is what we did).

[Deleted User]

Ok, thanks guys.

The deal is, we have petal folds for the inside, and we can't run them through the printer. My handwriting is HORRID, AND I have at least 150 envelopes, but if I have to, I will hand address the inside envelopes. I was thinking of not doing it at all, though, since the RSVPs will be printed with their names already on it.

And I KNOW you aren't "supposed" to print on the envelopes, but I've been lurking on here enough to know that this is also a rule that, as long as you don't use labels and use a nice font, it slips under the radar as acceptible most of the time.

Maybe this is a whole other question. I'm not sure.

Kate61487

ditto PP - if you were doing inner you could just put him there; but if you're not he should definitely go on the outer.  H and I have sent and received (prior to living together) a lot of mail this way; it's never been an issue.

s-aries8990

If you're doing inner: resident name and address on the outer, both on the inner

If no inner (and how my BF and I have recieved invites in the past):
Resident
SO
Address

Corinakay

When my FH and I were just dating and didn't live together I received a wedding invitation with both our names on it. It was the first piece of mail with both our names, it made him feel good that he was personally included AND I kept it for my scrap book! Corny I know, but true!