Rude and Nosy Co-Worker. Help!!

waterous.m

I need to know what to do about a highly annoying co-worker who keeps repeatedly asking me questions about my wedding which are NONE OF HER BUSINESS!! When I was first engaged the first words out of her mouth were, how many carats is your ring? I replied (over the phone) its a good size, to which she pressed, like a carat or two? I changed the subject and didn't answer. Few weeks later she called and said that she heard from another coworker that I bought my dress and asked how much it was!! When I wouldn't answer she asked for a price range!! Over the past two months she has also asked about how much my coordinator is, how much my budget is, and what the per plate price is. I have tried changing the subject, telling her I something broad like, it was a good price, and just ignoring her. I don't ever bring up my wedding with her anymore and she still calls and asks these questions!! She isn't engaged, married, or anyone who needs ideas for comparision and I just don't know what to do short or going to HR. Help!!

georgia_bride09

Stop answering your phone.

cengle

"I'm sorry, I'm not comfortable discussing these details with you."
She's apparently not getting the subtle hints; you're going to need to be direct with her.

tenofcups4me

"Coworker, I'm really not comfortable discussing prices."

Repeat as needed. It's really pretty simple.

stephdonjon

Jeez. Why the hell does she care? She's clearly just nosey. I agree, you should stop answering your phone.

AlmondWhittle

Punch her. It will distract her from asking anything.

Mrs.B6302007

"Coworker, your nose is much too big for your own good."

skippylouwho

Return her questions with a question, "why do you want to know?" or "why are you asking? 

and then tell her - "That is information I do not choose to share with you"

If she persists say "Have a nice day"

and

HANG UP. 

Once or even twice, the third time be very blunt:

Unless you have something besides my wedding to discuss, I am hanging up.

Give her time to respond. If she doesn't change the subject wish her a nice day and

HANG UP

Istremene

I agree with Cengle.  She obviously is not getting the subtle hints you are giving her so be more direct and tell her you are not comfortable discussing that with her.

ARod22

Politely tell her that you are keeping these matters between you and your FI.  If she doesn't stop, just bluntly say that this is private and not her business.  She's the one being rude, not you, so you should definitely not feel bad about being frank with her.

mrsbruff2b

You can say your wedding prices don't reflect the average and then give her this site lol.

LeeJane25

Another way to handle it might be to turn it back on her, saying something like, "Oh, are you looking to get engaged soon?" She may be asking because she wants to talk about her own life; she may want to talk to you about her future plans. And if not, this question will throw her off and maybe make her realize she has no reason to be asking. 

But, ultimately, I agree with the girls above -- direct is best. (I just know that I have trouble being blunt!)

Lisa8888

Instead of trying to avoid answering, just tell her that it is none of her business.

ThePinkSuperhero

Srsly, I'd stop taking her calls.