Not sure.

NicoleBreeze2013

I don't know weather this post belongs here but you have always given great advice. My dad is threating not to come to the wedding if he doesn't walk me down the aisle I don't want him to because ive lived with mum since I was four. He doesn't understand that though and keeps saying I'm not dead yet so it my job. Is there any other special job I could give him or a part in the processional. He just stresses me so much I don't want him next to me

NicoleBreeze2013

Honestly it's his choice I know but I would hurt my nan and pop so much and I love them they have always been there and helped when dad was off with his new family. It would start a huge fight and there old I worry about there health a lot stress wouldn't help them or me. I'll defiantly think about it and try to suck it up.

OliveOilsMom

I'm sure your nan and pop would understand, if they were there for you while your father was off with his new family.  The decision is ultimately yours and if you decide to not have your father walk you down the aisle, it will only reflect poorly on him to not be there.  Send him the invite and then let him decide.  Don't let anyone push you into doing something you aren't comfortable with.

michellesean

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[QUOTE]Honestly it's his choice I know but I would hurt my nan and pop so much and I love them they have always been there and helped when dad was off with his new family. It would start a huge fight and there old I worry about there health a lot stress wouldn't help them or me. I'll defiantly think about it and try to suck it up.
Posted by NicoleBreeze2013[/QUOTE]

HOLY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS!!!  Please read through your posts,this one hurt my head.

In the end it is your wedding, and dad might think that it's his job to walk you down the aisle, but that is not always the case.  There are people who go alone, have a god-parent walk them down or a sibling.  It's totally up to you.

wadingmoose

Have you tried talking to him at all?

I will add that I'm not sure who you've lived with since you were four has much to do with this.  Do you have a relationship with him at all?  Is your Mom pressuring you to not have him walk you down the aisle?

I mean, I get not wanting him to, the reason just seems odd.

NicoleBreeze2013

Thank you for all your advice. I've lived with mum since I was four only see him three times a year if that. He likes to play mind games and bully people. I want my mum next to me because she has always been there for me. I'll let it sit for now and address it again at a later date. Sorry about the spelling and punctuation.