Things You Have Accepted About Your Wedding...

BoathouseBride

There was a post about this a month ago and as I inch closer to the big day, I feel the need to revive it.What have you accepted about your wedding?  Here is your vent zone:1)  My "small, intimate affair" is now 200 guests in Central Park.  Most are coming - even the international guests.2)  My wedding no longer has a budget.  I just pay the bills as they come.  I no longer want to know how much the whole thing cost because I may just throw up.3)  It's all going to work out.  ------------------Next?

salt78

I never would have laid down and accepted that I was way overbudget, but that's just me.

zippityb

I do not have enough money to pay Anita Baker or Tony Hadley to sing at the ceremony/reception.

skimecrn

My band is not coming... They are breaking up and I have to accept that I will have some DJ I don't know.

angie74

that it was going to be awesome. and it was. I didn't have a whole lot of surprises or last minute WTH's.... it was pretty much exactly what we wanted

mandysmear

Things will go wrong.  My small intimate wedding turned into 95 guests.People will no-show.  I JUST accepted this.  I was pissed about the 4 people who couldn't come at passed along the info to H's parents the night before.

Lyss5782

1) That I will probably not convince my FI that he would rather wear a suit over a tux (dummy has a fantasy about feeling like James Bond--I wish I was kidding).2) That my original "budget" was a joke and I cannot get what I want in DC for that amount of money.3) That FI's parents are probably not going to offer to help pay.  And that I will have to get over it and try to get MY parents over it.4) That I dont have a rich uncle that will die and leave me money to pay for the issues in 2 and 3.

ggmae

Lyss - After much convincing, DH decided to buy a suit over renting a tux. He wanted a tux, but I convinced him that buying a nice suit was best because a) Our wedding wasn't formal enough for a tux and b) He could keep the suit and wear it again in the future.

Andrea_Lea

Lyss, having a wedding you and your FI can afford without having to ask your parents to cover it: Priceless.

buttaflai

1) Things will go wrong, but you have to move on and enjoy the day. They did and I did.2) MIL will ultimately say or do something to piss me off so I had to deal with that. She did both and I ignored her.3) People will be critical of the day, but it doesn't matter as long as you loved it. No shows still bothered me, but whatever.

sameoldash

At least one person in my family will probably be late to the ceremony.  As long as FI and I and the officient are there, things will go as planned.  I am extremely anal about being on time, but there is no sense in getting upset about something I cannot control.Other than that, I have accepted that it's going to be a great night!

Peyton Lawrimore

1)  I will not be able to get a cake from Duff and the gang at Charm City Cakes.  They book up too far in advance and their minimum is $1200/cake.  Boo. 2)  My mom hates my wedding dress.  Oh, well, tough noogies.  She isn't paying for anything at all.3)  This is the hard one; my 86-year-old grandmother won't be able to make it.  I'm really disappointed, but totally understand that it would be a rough trip for her; either a 2-hour plane ride plus a 1-hour car trip or an 8-hour car trip. 

Lyss5782

We are paying for almost all of it...but Im not going to lie, if a little genie asked me if I would like to have someone ELSE pay for it, I would say yes. 

NuggetBrain

Since its a Friday wedding, we have some special acceptance issues. 1) There will be people who cannot or will not go, because of work or kids or whatever the case might be, that would go if it was on a Saturday. 2) Some people are probably going to be late to the ceremony.3) My FI doesn't understand that we don't have to do what "everyone else" did (magnet STDs, a limo bus, barhopping after the ceremony for an hour...)4)  His mom is going to continue to have ideas that make me want to punch something, but I have to sit there and pretend to consider them anyways.5)  I'm not going to hit the weight I want to be at by my wedding. 

momofayden

I have accepted that:....... (1) My wedding will be expensive and there is only a few things I can do to cut costs. I have to accept I will have 200 guests and it will be expensive since i want a formal wedding. (2) Wedding dresses only look THAT good on stick thin super models that wear them in the magazines. (3) My fiance wants some really stupid things (IMO)at the wedding and I just need to let it go, smile and nod.

Calypso1977

i accepted that our wedding would never be what my MIL envisioned for her son's big day.

SarahSmile23

(2) Wedding dresses only look THAT good on stick thin super models that wear them in the magazines.FWIW, I actually think that wedding gowns look much better on real brides than stick then models!

ggmae

"Wedding dresses only look THAT good on stick thin super models that wear them in the magazines." I have to disagree. I think designers should start modeling the dresses on women above a size 0 because that's unrealistic. I think that most dresses look best on women with some curves.

Lyss5782

MoMo.....(for number 3), maybe HE should accept that none of his dumb ideas are getting in that wedding without a fight!    (Im kidding...sort of)

andilion

That no matter how hard I worked on the playlist, my friends are still too awkward to dance

jasmineh7777

1. That my church doesn't allow outdoor weddings. (Although I personally think that God digs the outdoors...) 2. Both of our families will still be cooky, whether its our wedding day or not.

swans alive

1. That certain members of my extended family will make snotty comments about my wedding as a "waste" of money, much like my private college and generally anything else I've done of which they don't approve. 2. That no matter what I do, I am not getting back down to a size six anytime soon without extreme dieting/exercises and sacrifices I am not willing to make. 3. That the chairs at my reception venue are still going to be an ugly poo brown the night of the reception, but at least they're super comfortable, and I know no one else will even notice this at all.

shellydiane820

1) My sister can't stand next to me2) I don't like the dress my bridesmaids picked out.

TiDa2009

I've accepeted....1.  That FI and I have completely different ideas of what the "perfect wedding" would be and that neither of us is going to love, love every single detail.  The important thing is we're getting married and we've compromised enough so that we're both happy and enjoy the day.2.  That FMIL is going to pay for something whether we like it or not.  I have to come to grips with the fact that the fight over it will be more of a hassle than letting her just do it.3.  That it will be a great day no matter what because we will be surrounded by friends and family. : )

amlewis83

I still have a long way to go and will learn to accept more things but as of now, I accept...that my father does not want to give a toast (I am lucky he is doing a 1st dance)that I am going to have to "hire" a few of the groomsman to make sure FI is on time.that there are going to be a few corny songs requested...that is when I a) grab the wine or b) head to the powder room.that no one cares about my wedding as much as I do.

ac_in_dc

1) It's not at night. 2) It's not my first. 3) I'm not going to get those taupe table linens I wanted because they're out of stock, and the cream is not really the look I was envisioning on my pretty inspiration board. Damnit!  I think everyone's going to notice

wadingmoose

1.  My Mom is ambivalent about it.2.  I'm having brunch.3.  My dress cost as much as my reception will.  More when I'm done with alterations.  Gee, I'm glad I made changes AFTER I ordered the dress.4.  My flowers will suck because I'm DIY'ing and my bouquet trial was less than inspiring.

scoetto

1. I really want a DJ and J doesn't. He is really hard core about it. So we will have an iPod reception. I am pretending to be ok with it. 2. Although my mom & sister HATE our favors, and think everyone will want to eat their honey straws asap and get honey all over their fancy clothes (Really, mom? Our guests aren't ALL under the age of 2) we are still giving them out because we like them.3. Our ceremony & reception will be 5 hours total. And it is ending at 8. So short. But we are all getting together after at a bar to continue the celebration.

Sooles

its gonna cost 10 grand. holy balls it sucks, but we have enough money. i guess.it has blown up from tiny intimate affair to 100+ guests.i "must" have flowers. sigh.

georgia_bride09

I have accepted that A) I was not my ideal weight and had back fat. My baker was a dumbass. C) I don't have enough memories because I was too tightly wound that day. I guess that's what my pictures are for.

georgia_bride09

My baker was a dumb A...S...S...