I really don't think my FSIL likes me..

FutureMrsDudley55

..and I'm not sure why. As far as I know, I've never done anything to her or said anything mean about her. She is marrying my brother this September and she flat out told me that the only reason I am one of her bridesmaids is because it is important to my brother and they wanted to keep it more traditional by only having women on the Brides side and men on the Grooms side. She said she had a lot of friends that she would rather have, but since I'm here that I took their place. Hell, I would rather not be in the wedding, but it is important to my brother. Then, just a few minutes ago she showed up at my house with my nephew. I tried to keep a conversation with her, but she wasn't the least bit interested. She eventually stood up and said, "Well I need to go before I fall asleep sitting here." I guess I'm boring! WTF?ps. sorry so long..

AmoroAgain

Perhaps you should tell her to stop being such a biznatch.  Or, at least tell your brother that you don't think she likes you.  I mean, it's okay not to like your inlaws, but it's quite another to be outright nasty to them.

CubsGirl05

Wow, she sucks.

mandysmear

Some people don't mesh and aren't meant to be good friends.  Take for example some of my sister's friends and I.  Sometimes there'll be lots of silence, and I get bored talking to just them. 

mocha beans

Well, she sounds like a charmer of a woman.I'm sorry she's so negative towards you, that would absolutely suck.

mandysmear

Oh sorry, I meant to add that I think she was a little too honest with you about being in the BP.

tigger9922

wow, she actually told you she never wanted you standing up beside her??? OMG.  Even if she felt that way, she should never say that to you.  I'm so sorry.  I love love love my FSIL and I'm so glad she is going to be my family, I could never imagine saying something like that to her......wow.  I have no other words......

twinkie757

Sounds like she's a treat to hang out with. I'd keep trying, maybe over time or when you're officially family she will warm up to you.

ootmother2

what a biitchShe actually felt that it was necessary to tell you all that?

georgia_bride09

Next time she mentions the BP, say, "Well, honestly I wish your friend was in your BP instead so I wouldn't have to wear this fugly hot mess of a dress." Even if they're cute.

FutureMrsDudley55

Tigger - Wish I could say the same, but I'm not looking forward to having her being my SIL. Twinkie - I've tried! I threw her a baby shower to show her how much my family and I cared about getting to know her, but she wasn't appreciative at all. Then a few weeks ago, my mom mentioned throwing her a bridal shower, so I asked FSIL about it, and she gave me a disgusting look and said, " I DON'T WANT A BRIDAL SHOWER OKAY?"

mocha beans

Good lord, why is your brother marrying her? She sounds dreadful.

mandysmear

Yeah she's definitely a biitch.  I didn't want a bridal shower however I said that if H's mom offered to throw me one I would be gracious and accept it.

wadingmoose

Whoa.  Raving biitch.

weddnovice

Oh man, I wonder if she's as bitchy to him?  If so, sounds like they'll be headed for divorce court sooner rather than later.  It sounds like her passive agressive/shitty comments kind of blind side you, I hope next time she's a cvnt you can think quickly and confront her.  :-D

aerotigergirl

Whoa. She does sound like a huge PITA. If their wedding is still far enough away, maybe the next time she brings it up you could offer to take another part in their wedding so that she could have another of her friends as a BM? That way, she gets what she wants and so does your brother?FWIW, I am having a hard time warming up to both of my SILs. My brother's wife and I are very different in general and my husband's sister is just sort of shy or something (we don't see either of them very often, either). But neither has ever been nasty to me like that. I'm sorry you're having to deal with her! GL!

georgia_bride09

Oh. Um. Yeah. Your brother is crazy too, then.

FutureMrsDudley55

Yea, unfortunately my brother has changed A LOT since he got together with her. Makes me sad.

angiebear11

Wow, didn't know that part of the story. Sorry, but it sounds like your brother and her deserve each other. Yikes!

wadingmoose

1.  Pick up the phone2.  Dial your brother's number3.  "Hi bro.  You know what?  I can't be in your wedding." 4.  Hang up.Everyone will be so much happier.

FutureMrsDudley55

I just know that if I talk to my brother about it, he'll take off and tell her everything I said, but not before telling me that FSIL adores me and call me crazy for thinking any of this, or something along those lines.

weddnovice

Stories like these seem to justify honor killings don't they? 

FutureMrsDudley55

I wish it could be that simple, Moose.

sucrets4

Whoa, it's one thing to be cool to someone, it's another thing to be a raving biitch.  Why on earth would he marry her???

FutureMrsDudley55

Sucrets - I know. I really don't know what he sees in her. This may sound horrible of me, but I do see a divorce between them in the future.

whitsy

Stories like these seem to justify honor killings don't they? Whoa, what? That's a little extreme.

mocha beans

She sounds positively BSC, I'm boggled as to why he'd marry her in the first place.  Although from the sounds of her, he probably doesn't have much choice.  If he tried to get away, she'd never leave.

banana468

She sounds like a real winner.If only you could videotape your conversations with her to replay to your brother.

lpstl

Ah, I remember this now. I'm just speculating here, but maybe she knows how you feel?

Ssaaraahh

Wow....you must really care for your brother if you're putting up with that crap. I'd probably tell them I can't be a bridesmaid, make up some excuse why (even though the fsil will surely know it's because she was a complete biitch to you). Maybe to continue showing support to my brother I would offer to help in some other way. Do they need a guest book attendant or program hander-outer for princess cuunts sparkle rainbow day?

FutureMrsDudley55

lpstl - When I found out about the stalking thing, I seriously wanted to kick her a$$. But as time went on and I realized my brother was dating her and seemed to be happy, I wanted to be happy for him. So I tried to like her, get to know her and at first, she seemed genuinely interested in getting to know me, but not anymore.Sarah - If I was to step down as a BM, literally hell would break loose.