I'm having a little trouble dealing with how I feel right now. I asked my best friend to be my MOH the other day, and she basically said no. Well, what she said was "I'll think about it." I'm trying to be mature and understanding, as she is getting married about 2 months after me and expressed concern about being a good MOH under the circumstances. She mentioned the added cost and responsibility. I just don't see how this is any different from being a bridesmaid. She wouldn't be spending any extra or doing any more. Is she looking for a way out of being an attendant altogether? We both have other weddings to attend around the same time, and have friends in tight financial situations these days, and talked openly one day about having to be understanding if a friend had to decline to participate or come to the wedding. I didn't know we were talking about us, and my wedding! I'm supposed to be a bridesmaid for her too. Truthfully, I know it sounds spiteful and I don't mean it to be, but I'm so hurt that if she won't be in my wedding, I don't know if I can feel comfortable in hers. It feels like a rejection.When can I approach her about this? Do I just wait around until she approaches me? We've been friends for nearly 15 years and I never imagined the moment I asked my best friend to be my MOH to turn out like this. I'm hurt and embarrassed.