Invitations went out 2 weeks ago. My brother's was addressed to him, his son, and long time girlfriend (5+ years). Last weekend, brother and his girlfriend had a messy breakup and are in the process of deciding custody, etc. I have no ill feelings toward his ex-GF, but he does, so I'm just trying to stay out of things. Brother asks me if he can bring a date/friend to the wedding so he'll have someone to hang out with and sit with. Sure, no problem. (I honestly wouldn't care if ex-GF still wanted to come, as long as my brother was okay with it.)Fast foward to today. She is in a fit because she's being excluded from things. We're going tonight to get my nephew fitted for his RB tux. She wants to be there. It's my brother's night to have his son. I don't care if she comes or not, but he doesn't want her there. So, we're rescheduling for a night we can all go together (I don't actually live in the town they live in, so it's more of a burden for me than anyone.) Now she's pissed off because she wants to know who's going to watch her child the day of the wedding. I was confused when my brother told me this (as was he) because I assumed he would be watching his own child. He assumed the same thing. She apparently thinks he needs someone to watch over him the entire time (bro is in the wedding), but my dad, grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc. will all be there and have volunteered to help out with all the kids if they need to. Any thoughts on how I can tactfully deal with her without making things worse for my brother? He's trying to reason with her about everything, but she insists on talking with me about it all. Keep in mind she isn't reasonable AT ALL, so I need some pretty solid statements to make her feel comfortable about the situation.
