Lets liven things up

nda_roxybabe

I am not engaged. Go ahead, ask away, I'll explain...

ThePinkSuperhero

Ok, I'll bite.  Why are you here if you aren't engaged?

mrsLesGrossman

I feel betrayed.  I kid, you're pretty cool so far.  So tell us the the story. 

ggmae

Roxy, how dare you lie to us!!1!1Do explain.

lpstl

I feel scammed!!Are you already married and planning a sham wedding? A really good AE? I'm going to be upset if you've decided to get married but he hasn't done his big proposal yet to make it official, because that wouldn't be too scandalous.

amalama

Psstt....I'm not either. Don't tell. Oh wait.

nda_roxybabe

Ok, heres the deal. Tyler and I have been together 3 1/2 years and back in 2007 he asked me to marry him (we were 20 at the time) we were engaged about 7 months (thats when I signed up here) and after moving down here to Phoenix we decided we were too young to be getting married and we didn't want to rush things so we called it off but still stayed together.Fast forward to earlier this year, we started discussing marriage again and Tyler said he wanted to be engaged before the end of the year and to show him rings I like. So I got back on here but I went to NEY and it was so slow and lame I started lurking over here...So here I am now, caught up in all the P&E ridiculousness. I am not planning a wedding at all (thats for people who are engaged) but Tyler and I have seriously discussed marriage and its something that will be happening within the next 2 years.There...I felt bad when gg called him my FI..I didn't want to be super deceptive.

ThePinkSuperhero

HOW DARE YOU.  j/k.

mrsLesGrossman

I like her and don't care, same for amalama.  She isn't annoying like when whitson was on NEY.  You joined within reason and I kind of get it.  Now you're here and you can't leave, you're cruise could be your engagement.   

nda_roxybabe

Ama- I know you aren't either hahaIn my defense too I've never referred to him as my fiance and I never mention anything about my wedding (because I don't have one. Again, you've got to be engaged for that). This is also why I don't have a bio (Brie asked where mine was the other day).

ggmae

Well it sounds like you both did what was best for your relationship if you thought you were too young, and that's really admirable. Can I call him your almostFI? :)And after reading what you wrote, I did think to myself "Well, that's funny. I've never read anything about her wedding!"

amalama

Yeah I always refer to him as BF, so no big secret here!

nda_roxybabe

Well thanks E. Haha no, I just felt like I've been posting enough recently that everyone should be clear on my situation so it doesn't become some big deal. Maybe the cruise will be the engagement but I think Tyler see's that as too predictable. Also, per our recent conversations I'm not convinced it will be before the end of the year still..moneys tight right now and he wants to have some kind of financial stability before getting engaged / planning a wedding (I know, weddings don't have to be expensive. You can go to the court house) So it may be the beginning of next year. Who knows.

nda_roxybabe

Isn't "almost fiance" a little too NEY desperatetogetmarried sounding?

twinkie757

I completely understand why you don't hang out on NEY. Every day there's a new post saying "OMG, He's SO going to propose tomorrow, I just KNOW it!" But, we can't forget the constant whiners over there too that always ask "when is he going to propose already!?" At least on P&E we get the constant questions about STDs which at least makes me grin each time I read it.

ggmae

Good point. Tyler it is!

amalama

I think I may have posted on NEY like 3 times, there are a few normal girls over there but it is usually either dead, or psycho desperate girls.

ggmae

I've only posted on NEY there was a post on P&E to go over there and reason with a dummy. I didn't join TK until 4 months after I got engaged.

nda_roxybabe

Yes, I am so glad we did not get married then. We were 20! It would have been stupid, stupid, stupid. Yes, NEY has gone from crazy to deader than dead to crazy to not too, too bad in the past 9 months.

mwhitson14

Um. I never posted on NEY. I started posting around december, I think. At which point I had been engaged about 7 months.

twinkie757

The problem with NEY getting most of the crazies is the girls over there are too polite about everything. It's as if they are afraid to have an internet stranger dislike them.

mrsLesGrossman

You posted on NEY a lot, I don't know or care if you were NEY but you were there and redic. 

lpstl

Damnit, that wasn't scandalous enough!  (Totally fine in your situation, it's only really creepy when the girl is on here and her bf has no idea, and they've never discussed marriage)

berryholly

When I joined The Knot, NEY was not really NEY.  How the times have changed.  My very first post was on NEY I think...I posted something funny that had apparently already been posted and everyone jumped all over me. Ha.

nda_roxybabe

Lpstl- Sorry to disappoint. I guess I could have said that I'm a stripper and I desperately want one of my clients to marry me so I'm on here getting tips from all the engaged people on how to trap a man into marriage (see I'm not ever original).Tyler definitely knows I'm on here and he doesn't mind. He thinks its funny when he asks what I'm doing and I say "knotting" and it sounds like "nothing" yea...he's a nerd.

mwhitson14

I know I didn't post over there. My very first post ever was kicking a BM out (which she ended up removing herself) on here. Definitely wouldn't have posted on a NEY board for a definite etiquette question. Ah, I remember my first flaming!

mrsLesGrossman

I remember when NEY was very different. 

nda_roxybabe

What was NEY like? I know when I first went over there the girls who are on snarky brides now were all over NEY.

saschaduran

You are too cool to post on NEY so I don't care at all.  I even answered E's poll earlier saying I don't care about stuff like that as long as it is a mature couple heading in that direction.

nda_roxybabe

Oh yeah, that poll yesterday. After I saw that I was like alright, I've got to bring this up. A lot of people were on the fence with that question.