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siems

I wanted something that wasn't just about the colors of the Bridemaid's dresses, so i thought a theme would be a great idea. The bad part is i need help with finding stuff that go with the theme, which is A Midsummer Night's Dream. I was thinking of the girls wearing purple but then i thought that would be too dark b/c i want the wedding at dust. So i thought maybe the David's Bridal "watermelon" color??? Now the flowers, i read on a sight that bell like flowers would be good but i'm not so sure. I would like my bouquet to be a trail bouquet but i want vines. The trouble is i can't find any examples of something i would like on the net. I have a few more other ideas that i would like to talk about but i think should start small any suggestions would be SO great!

nvdmeulen

I agree, don't set anything in stone if it's that far off. you may drastically change your mind between now and then.

mrsLesGrossman

Did you use code for your smiley or works now? 

ExpatPumpkin

Sounds like you're really excited about being engaged. Since your wedding is so far out, though, you shouldn't be planning anything. Your tastes will simply change too much - remember how you liked different stuff four years ago? Besides that, anything you like now could be discontinued. And really don't pick out a bridal party until about three years from now. People and friendships change too much - especially after you graduate from college. Why don't you just start by making collages and a scrapbook of your ideas? Then really start planning in about 2.5-3 years. There's nothing productive that you can do this early on, and you will drive your friends crazy... I was engaged and married in the span of ten months, so trust me when I say that you have PLENTY of time

sarah0725

I just got through the first year of my three year engagement, so I can understand how you're feeling a bit. The best way to think about any planning you're doing right now is that it's basically brainstorming or fantasizing to get you through these next few tough years. You'll change your mind a bunch of times during this period, so like PP said, the best thing to do is to make scrapbooks of the ideas you have now.And themes should come organically out of your venues. For instance, I spent six months gathering ideas for a Celtic theme back when I thought I was getting married in a forest or garden in North Jersey. Suddenly, FI and I decided to get married in an elephant down by the shore, and my whole theme changed. These things can happen.When you say A Midsummer Night's Dream, do you mean to invoke Shakespeare? When I think of that play, I think of fairies, enchantments, wildflowers, etc., but ESPECIALLY fairies. If you're not going for that specifically you might want to think about your theme a bit more.

goheels05

Themes are for proms, not for weddings.  Regardless, don't start planning yet.  In 4 years when you get married, you probably will be over the whole theme thing.  Hopefully.

Nebb

The worlds going to end in 2012 anyways, so dont worry too much about it right now.

BecW2be

To be exact, it's at DUST in 2013.Jesus, is this another vampire wedding?

aerinpegadrak

We were planning a fairly elaborate Old Hollywood theme, to the point where it was going to feel more like a movie premiere than a wedding.  It took about a year to do the research and hash out the details, but we had everything planned, and it was going to be perfect.Then, whoops!  We went to start booking and found that there was no way in hell that we were going to be able to pull it off on our budget.  Two days, and the whole thing went up in smoke.  We ended up eliminating 2/3 of the guest list and moving the whole thing to Vegas, and now there's just a vaguely vintage feel left behind.Those two days I mentioned?  Sucked.  Worst part of planning yet.  Throwing away months of work =/= fun.  It's great to be excited about planning, and to get an idea of the things you like about weddings and things you don't, but if you start getting hung up on particulars this far out, you're just asking to get your heart broken when they don't work out.

ZRex

I agree with the previous poster. I had all these ideas for a garden-party...turns out if you want to have a garden party in Boston, you need to pay out the nose. I would wait until you at least know your budget before you start planning things. A friend sent me this site: http://www.loveluckandangels.com/coordination.php?photo=18 which is basically just a bunch of pictures of wedding stuff to use as inspiration...maybe start putting things together.

sammyjo0320

watermelon is a great color! that is the color of my BM's dresses. Definately way to early to start planning though!

salt78

I'm hoping to have a child out of diapers by the time you actually get married. Come back and ask us this question again in 2012 or so.

ffmaid

It is too early to pick bridesmaids and way to early to pick dresses for bridesmaids. Instead save up your money but stop focusing on details for a few years. Every time you saythe word bride, wedding, bridesmaid, or theme in the next 3 years put a dollar in teh wedding fund this will both help you save for the wedding and prevent you from alienating your friends in teh next 3 years . Many of whom might meet, date, get engaged, and get married in the time you are engaged

siems

Okay... i didn't see the date, sorry... my boss signed me up for this sight and she just put something down b/c El and i hadn't picked a date yet... The date is Oct. of 2010 and sorry for the miss spelling of DUSK also... Yes i'm talking about A Midsummer Night's Dream the a romantic comedy by William Shakespeare. and i was planning on a few fairies in a tree or two but not too many, my main idea for decorations is plants and Christmas lights