A little nervous!

XxMari518xX

WARNING --- Before you make comments about being tacky it is extremely common to charge for Bridal Showers (if held at a restaurant) in Miami/my circle of people/etc. --- FOR WARNED!  (P.S. The typical question to ask is how much is it?)

OK NOW!  I have a few friends getting invited to the Bridal Shower who are not from Miami or even from my same culture ---

Should I call/text/e-mail them explaining that it is normal for the invite to ask people to pay their way? 

I honestly had zero clue (my whole life) that you don't charge until I got on the knot.

rlavach

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_little-nervous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:7c826fc1-ef9c-4b26-b2e6-a25115c15d54Post:95cc78b7-1904-4c5f-9e1e-1b9b64c48560">Re: A little nervous!</a>:
[QUOTE]LoL thanks ladies ... I approached those not from Miami and non-Hispanic and explained the situation. I personally offered to pay and apologized if this offended them. <strong>Funny enough -- none were offended nor surprised about the charge.</strong> I also asked a few people from my immediate circle (sisters, cousins, co-workers, ex-coworkers and girls I graduated high school with) and all seemed to expect it and didn't think it was out of the ordinary. Since it seemed to be an issue with a few people (and I now know what the proper etiquette is) I just asked around to ensure I (nor my hosts) were inadvertently offending someone.
Posted by XxMari518xX[/QUOTE]
OK, so I'm sure you're going to find the next sentence snarky, but, of course they won't say it to your face! There have been plenty of times where I've been shocked or confused by something, but I never say anything to them. It's been many years later & still none of them know. Who knows what they're really thinking. <div>
</div><div>Regardless, you did the right thing in letting them know and offering to pay. I'm glad it all worked out.</div>

apet222v

I live in Virginia and if u are having a shower if any the hostess does not pay either. So i do understand what she is saying. Here in Virginia they already know if its at a restaurant u have to pay for your own meal. Its just the South (i think).