Who to walk me down the aisle?

KYGIRL30

Hi everyone! My wedding question is: I have been married once before and we "eloped" so-to-speak. My sister got married a few weeks ago and of course my dad walked her down the aisle. But I think it brought back memories of him not being at my first wedding- he ignored me the whole weekend, never said a word to me even when I spoke to him   It is extremely  possible from what he has said before  that he will choose NOT to walk me down the aisle. Would it be appropiate to have my mom or my sister walk me? Or what if I walked alone??

sarabellam

Any of the 3 would be appropriate.

kmsst48

You can have whoever you want to do so. Some even walk down alone. Whoever is going to make YOU the happiest. 

TaraKeeley

Don't let anyone hurtful and unsupportive destroy your celebration. Choose someone you feel more comfortable with, or go solo.

Ali092011

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[QUOTE]It sounds like he was hurt that he wasn't there to walk you down the aisle the first time.  If you've been close and hope to somehow repair the relationship in the future, I'd ask him.  Or ask if both he and your mom would do it together.  At that point, the ball's in his court.  He can always say no, but he'll never again be able to hold it over your head that he wasn't given the opportunity.
Posted by Sleeper2013[/QUOTE]

I agree. Let him know that you would be honored if he would walk you down the aisle, then let him decide. If he chooses not to, I think it would be fine to have your mother walk you down, or you can walk alone.

FI and I decided to walk down the aisle together. That's another option.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Who to walk me down the aisle? : I agree. Let him know that you would be honored if he would walk you down the aisle, then let him decide. If he chooses not to, I think it would be fine to have your mother walk you down, or you can walk alone. FI and I decided to walk down the aisle together. That's another option.
Posted by Ali092011[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I agree with this. As someone who lost her dad (and would give anything to have him there), I think you need to open a line of communication if this behavior with him is new. If he has a history of treating you like this, then that's a different story, but if his feelings were just hurt that he didn't get the chance to do this before, I can't see why you wouldn't try to mend those feelings by offering it to him--if you WANT him to.

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