a question..

tafft1

Though not engaged yet ( but will be by the end of the holidays) i am already trying to envision certain aspects and the one thing that is bothering me is i have no one to walk me down the aisle/give me away. My parents are both deceased , i don't have any other family really though am trying to get back in contact with my aunt and uncle who i was close with most of my life.i have become very close with my boyfriend's father but don't know if that is even proper or acceptable. i know it's awhile off but it's hard still knowing none of "my" family is alive or around to ask about this..would appreciate any advice/suggestions or feedback. Thanks

georgia_bride09

How do you KNOW you'll be engaged by the end of the holidays?

wadingmoose

You're an adult and fully capable of walking down the aisle by yourself.

bbyckes

Ditto Georgia.  But, it's also perfectly acceptable to walk yourself down the aisle.

eastunder1

If you would like your future FI father to walk you down the aisle, I don't see the problem with it. There is certainly no rule that says you can't.  I would run it by your FI first.  He may want his father to be a groomsman and stand with him.  He just may not be comfortable with it for some reason.  But if you want him to and he is fine with it, I see no issue. 

gkb0910

There are certain aspects of my wedding I thought about before we were engaged.  I would imagine this to be a big one if I lost both my parents, too.  I'm sorry for your loss. You can choose whomever you'd like to walk you down the aisle.  If you'd like to choose your BF's father, I would imagine he'd be honored.  Plus, it'd really show two families merging.  You can also walk by yourself or walk with your BF.

salt78

I'm sorry for your losses. Maybe you could walk alone, but carry something in your bouquet that is symbolic of your parents?

ThePinkSuperhero

You can do whatever you want!  If your boyfriend's father would be willing to walk you down the aisle (and he might not, seeing that you're not his daughter), go for it.

J&K10910

Well, this is going to sound silly, but don't worry about it yet.  You have a lot of time to decide what you want to do, there's no need to nail something down yet.  Not that it's bad to think about it, but there's no sense in driving yourself crazy.With that said, a lot of brides these days are walking themselves down, or if they see their fiance before the ceremony, just walking down with their fiance.  Those might be really good solutions for you.

Calypso1977

i walked with my husband.  it was wonderful.  why dont you walk with your boyfriend?  seeing each other before also allows you to get all of your photos done ahead of time.  then, wehn its ceremony time, you can just have fun becuase all of the "work" is done.  then you can enjoy the time with your guests afterwards instead of abandoning them for photos.

Catwoman708

If you don't have to have anyone walk you down the aisle. Many brides prefer to walk alone, and find the idea of being "given away" a little archaic. But if you really like the idea of someone escorting you down the aisle, you can ask any friend or relative you are close with, male or female, or even the husband of a close friend. You can ask your BF's father, I have heard of it. It is a little unusual or uncommon, but as far as I know it's not considered "weird" or improper.

ac_in_dc

I think walking alone or with your fiance sounds like a good idea. Just an opinion, but for some reason walking with your future father in-law sounds weird to me. No big deal though.

louisvillebride21

If you don't want to see each other before the ceremony, you can still walk part way with your FI. Maybe walk halfway down by yourself and then he comes and gets you and walks the rest of the way with you.

goheels05

i have become very close with my boyfriend's father but don't know if that is even proper or acceptable.I think that would be really sweet.  Or walk with your BF.  Or by yourself.  Whatever you're most comfortable with, all of those choices are acceptable. 

tafft1

@Georgia - We have been ring shopping/discussing it and he told me he wants to make the final ring choice himself and surprise me and will only tell me its this holiday season to keep some sense of surprise but i respect why you would ask and thank you :)And thank you to all for the suggestions - It's a very personal situation as my mother nor father ever was able to attend my sister's weddings and it was their desire to see me walk down the aisle but life happens sadly. So it is an emotional thing for me to consider and walking alone i can do and do like the idea of something of significance , so thank you. Again appreciate all responses it gives me a different view on things. i thank you all

freckles79964

Have your sister walk you down the aisle. I think that would be much more symbolic than your BF's father. Personally, I would walk down myself.

Pirata13

If you're close with his father, I think it would be nice.  If my father were deceased and had no other male family members to do it, I would ask FI's stepdad in a heartbeat.

gkb0910

I just read your follow up post and saw you had a sister.  If you're close to her, you can walk with her.  Just another option for you.

*BeachBride0410*

I like the sister option as well... I am very sorry for your lose.

tafft1

thank you all sincerely for all the suggestions , for some reason i never even thought of my sister but definitely would be proud to have her by my side. i do have plenty of time but just was wondering of others thoughts , again i thank each and every one of you for your encouragement and kind words