Rude/tacky or not?

emilykathleen511

Okay question: If I send reply cards that have options to reply online or reply by phone, is this rude or tacky? I am fully prepared to call people that don't respond. I think that if I only gave one option or the other it might be, but since I'm giving two options with the understanding that I may have to call a bunch of people, I don't think it is tacky or rude. My sister disagrees and says that people will think so. FYI, there are very few people on the list that don't have a computer or use the internet. I figured you ladies would set things straight pretty quick. Thanks.

tbh33

Do I think it's tacky? not reallyDo I think you're only making more work for yourself? DEFINITELY!A few days ago there was a post (I believe on this board) about a girl only getting 4 RSVP's out of the 70 that she sent.  People will just be less likely to remember to call or go online.But if you realize that in the end, you will possibly have to call almost all of your invitees then go for it.  As a guest, I probably wouldn't like having to do either way, but I wouldn't think it was terribly tacky either.

rhodesign

We did this, and so far it's not too much of a problem. We have over 50% response rate now with 2 weeks to go. I anticipate having to call people, and the people I anticipate calling are who I thought all along I'd have to call regardless if we sent cards or not.

tenofcups4me

I don't think it's "tacky," but I do think it's casual or informal. If that's in keeping with the rest of your wedding, then that's fine. But if you're going for a more formal affair, I personally don't think it works. Really depends on what else you're doing and if this in keeping with the rest of it.

sammi1285

You will probably need to send out self-addressed stamped envelopes to everyone anyway, so I would save yourself the trouble and just use those. I do think online RSVPing is really informal but not tacky.

britab

We did that and saved money doing so. I think we had about the same response rate as people that had card you had to send back. We ended up calling some people. Most people RSVPed online and a few called. GL!

ootmother2

It suits a casual affair, not a formal wedding.You decide

fangsiting

We're doing online RSVP to cut down on paper use.  We're trying to be as environmentally friendly as possible.  I don't think online RSVP automatically means casual if you have a fancy invite.  If you are putting response cards in the invite anyway, then I don't really see the point--just have people send in the cards.  It doesn't save any trees or money. 

ffmaid

Reply cards are never technically required. Folks are supposed to if not included write you a letter on their good stationary to RSVP following the basic wording of teh invite. However, you are already giving them multiple options online on phone or the traditional they write you a letter is always deemed acceptable so you have already gone beyond the minimum so it is not rude or tacky in the least.

TheSaltyPeanut

We had the RSVP card in our pocketfolds state that they could RSVP to our website, a phone number, an email, or our address. It worked out GREAT! We also got a ton of RSVPs on facebook. It just worked out with our family and friends. Our wedding was formal.

LesPaul

I would include the traditional snail mail reply card.  Even though everyone is on the internet, unfortunately many people do not understand how to properly RSVP.  And they also do not understand that you need accurate numbers because you are paying for the headcount.