Prego MOH needs help

REBMA

My baby is due two month before the wedding.I was hopping to get the shower and the bachlorette party done before I had the baby so I wouldn't be stressed out even more after having my first child. The Bride is wanting to wait till the last month to do all of this because her sister is going to be traveling Asia after working in Korea for a year. Even with being super organized before I have the baby I just dont see how I could possibly do this.any sugestions?

therickson

Are you able to do a lot of stuff in advance? Is there anyone to help? What are your ideas for the events?

REBMA

Her wedding party is me and her sister and her sister is away until a month before the wedding.The bridal shower I'm not too worried about because I can prep in advance and i know her mother will want help. It's the bachlorette that is really worrying me.

thesuninherhead

I'd say to plan what you can in advance, and hand the execution of the plans over to the bridesmaids or other close family members of the bride. Surely she would be understanding of that.

sudslover

What do you have in mind for the bachlorette party?  An overnight or just an evening?  For an evening, you can bring your little one with you.  They are pretty pliable at that age, and if you are nursing, it can work just fine.  Just no drinking for you!  ;-)  An overnight is tricky, but can be done with planning.    Can you give her a shower before your baby arrives (that would be at least 2-1/2 months before the wedding in case you deliver early) and then her sister can host another shower with a different theme closer to the wedding?    While it's far in advance, it can work, and I'm sure people would understand.

sudslover

If you are uncomfortable taking your little one out for an evening or overnight, I should think the bride's sister can take care of the bachlorette party, and then you could focus on the shower.  You'll be so tired from lack of sleep that you may want to arrange for splitting the duties now, so you won't stress and then you know the bride will be well taken care of. 

dsouldiva

I think it's lovely you are even thinking of this, if I were you I would do as much in advance as possible for the shower and try and do that when her sister is back, I'm guessing this will be a daytime thing so having your new baby there shouldn't be a problem.As for the bachelorette party I would hand this over to her sister to sort out, it sounds like you will have too much on your plate to be worrying about it once the baby comes along.  None of these parties are essential and given the circumstances noone is going to think badly of you for not taking them both on.

sarabellam

The bride does realize that the bachelorette party is NOT a mandatory event, right? If she wants here sister there so much, you need to let her know that you won't be able to do this after your baby arrives.

danieliza1127

Do you have any other friends in common?  If so, then offer to throw her the bridal shower but leave it to her other friends to put together a bachelorette party.  I think that's perfectly understandable given the situation.

Nebb

spaghetti sauce maid of honor, what??

sarabellam

Nebb, I personally prefer Paul Newman's, but will buy the Classico when I need some more reusable jars. Tee-hee.

stina93446

Are there any other bms to help with these parties? If you're throwing them by yourself, I think the bride should just be gracious and accept them, especially if you're going to have a baby. Maybe fork some of the load over to another bm to lighten your load a little.

ffmaid

Maybe someone else could hostess the shower and bachlorette

goheels05

I planned my SILs b-party.  We went out to dinner and then went back to my place so that she could open gifts (lingerie and the like) and we ate cake, played funny games, drank punch, had a few drinks for those who wanted to drink, etc.  This is something you and the bride's sister could pull together fairly easily, and you wouldn't have to leave the baby with anyone.

Moneypenny424

It is very kind of you to be thinking of all this stuff.  Do what you can in advance and don't worry about the rest of it.  Her sister traveling in Asia isn't exactly more legitimate than you having a baby, so do what you can, the sister will do what she can and perhaps there are other friends/family who will help.  I can't imagine your friend is expecting you to do all this stuff when you'll have a newborn!

Catwoman708

Showers and bachelorettes are not required, and hosting them is voluntary. I'm wondering why you didn't back out of doing this a long time ago. Having a baby 2 months before the wedding is a perfect excuse to pass the buck on doing a shower. Ask if you can do the shower in advance. That does not require her sister's presence. Then pass on the bachelorette, because those are usually casual and easily planned last minute - by someone who hasn't just had a baby.