Who to invite from work...

lbarcomb

Good morning ladies!I have a question. I cannot decide who to invite to our wedding from my workplace. I have been here almost 4 years (4 by the time we're married, going on 5) and there are a few people I am close with. Someone here told me only to invite people I hang out with outside of work...well, there aren't many that I "hang" out with, but many I talk to outside of work and who know about my life outside of the office. I feel as though it would be okay to invite those people, but are there people you SHOULD invite? Like your boss? I don't think anyone's feelings would be hurt, I think it's apparent who I am friendlier with and who is just a co-worker, but I don't want to be rude...suggestions?

tidetravel

"talk to" outside of work = socialize with outside of work = more of a relationship than coworkers.You aren't obligated to invite anyone from work.  If you choose to invite coworkers, make sure that you send the invite to their home, not to work, and keep wedding talk at work to a minimum.  Also, just as with any guest, coworkers should get a +1 if they are in a LTR.

lbarcomb

I would send their invites to their homes. I have their home addresses already. 3 out of the 4 people I would invite are married and I would obviously allow them to bring their spouses, especially since I have met them all before...and the single gal would be given the option to bring a guest. I have been trying not to talk much about the wedding at work. To be honest, it makes me uncomfortable because I don't want anyone to WANT to be invited and then get let down if they are not and I don't want to rub it in anyone's face either.

goheels05

Sounds like you have the right idea.You don't have to invite your boss.  I didn't invite mine, but DH invited his, because they are close.

ffmaid

One great thing to consider if who will you assumeing all alive invite to your 50th wedding anniversary party?? So if you expect you would not hang out is not coworkers do not invite. I think it is a rare coworker that is in your life forever

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Are these people you go out for drinks with and would keep in touch with if you left? Or more like a, "Oh hi, Sally, how was your weekend? Hows the wedding planning going?" sort of relationship?Cause I understand some people have good friends from work. Personally, I'm cordial but not close to everyone. I'm trying to keep my guest list manageable. They aren't invited. Everyone understands it's hard to accommodate EVERYONE you have ever known. And everyone who is invited, including coworkers, are at your discretion.

lbarcomb

You are all so very helpful I think I am going to stick with the 3 people I am close with and everyone else will understand. I can't invite them all and I am certainly not paying for someone to come who I am not close with!

jenprette

You don't have to invite everyone. I have a very small workplace where we are all very close and we are also having a late ceremony with dance (no supper) so I am extending invites to everyone at my work. My fiance on the other hand works at a very large company and is only inviting the people that he is closest to, and it doesn't include his boss. Use your discretion, invite who you want to celebrate with.

mizdiz444

I had the same issue because I have been at my job for 4 years as well.  I invited the people I have worked with the longest and then everyone in my department (There are only 7 of us).  I just didn't have the heart to not invite everyone from my department because we have all been talking nothing but wedding for 4 months.  I had room in my count to add them anyway.  If we were crunched on numbers, I would've been a little more choosy about workplace invites.  My FI only invited 2 from work.

brodeurnm05

I think you should invite the people you consider friends or are close to. The only person that you really should invite is your boss. I feel that is just proper etiquette

XOXOBride09

FI and I work at the same company so we ended up inviting a fair amount of work people including our bosses. The people in our company is also kind of close knit so it made sense to do that.  For each person I asked myself whether I would hope/expect to be invited to their wedding or would I think it was strange or unnecessary to be invited to their wedding - if that makes sense. Right now my dillema is whether to invite a new coworker in my department who I know pretty well b/c she has been a consultant with us for a few years but just started full time a few days ago. It's a delicate balance. We talk about personal things (like her recent divorce) but I don't want it to look like an obligatory invite.  But I digress - - I don't think there is anyone you "should" invite. People understand that wedding are expensive and you also don't want people to feel like they are getting an obligatory invite. I hope that helps.

erinfabes

I am TOTALLY going through this right now!! I have taught for about 4 years, but for the past 8 months I have been a nanny to a family. I got engaged my first week of working for them, so they have heard things during my planning. On the other hand, I am kind of close with them, but lately have not had the best time and am contemplating quitting after the new year. The mom and I have had coffee out of work, but the father and I are not close. OH and the biggest factor is that we are having a destination wedding. My DH invited his close co worker friend (who knows the family I nanny for) and I think the mom that I nanny for knows!!! We are having a at home reception a month after the wedding, so would it be wrong to just invite them (and the children) to that celebration? Thanks for listening to my venting!!