Wearing white to a wedding

SarieP

The "black attire" post made me think of this.  My wedding coordinator came over for dinner last week and she had not yet seen our video, so I popped it in.  Apparently a friend of mine was wearing a white dress with a white cardigan.  My coordinator was horrified.  I giggled.  I thought her dress was super cute and even complimented her on it.  It never even occured to me that she was wearing white to my wedding.I think it is funny when brides freak out about someone wearing white to their wedding.  It's not like it'll take the spotlight away from them . . .Just my random thought for the day.

kate51485

That's funny. I don't think I'd even notice, honestly.

cengle

Yeah, I don't really get it either. A friend of mine had a guest who wore a white sundress to her wedding. She was peeved, but then the poor guest spilled red wine on herself. 

MissSarah786

I would never wear an all white dress, but a mainly white dress with some color would be fine.

temerityjane

It's nice that you're that laid back. I'm sure you'll have plenty of people agree with you.However, a bride is not in the wrong for being offended if someone DOES wear white to her wedding.If someone wears white to my wedding, I would not be concerned that someone is going to get us confused.I would, however, be very offended.Many may consider the "don't wear white to a wedding so as not to upstage the bride" rule to be outdated, but the fact is, it exists, and most all adults are aware of it. It would deeply hurt my feelings if someone, knowing it is improper, wore white to my wedding. It's not polite, even if you're okay with it.

mandapanda78

I think my mother would freak out more than I would- she's all into "the rules". When I worked in a hotel I had a bride come into the lobby with red wine spilled all down the skirt of her gown. She was horrified.

SarahnVinny

I dont think its a big deal at all, Unless you are trying to upstage the bride lol. At Fi's step brothers wedding, a guest showed up in a floor length flowy white ball gown. We watched the video of the wedding and during some moments, it was hard to tell if it was the actual bride or not.She was pregnant and claimed it was the only dress that fit her at the time. Other than that, no worries of white at all. Wear whatever your comfortable in.

Stackeye210

I was 9 month's pregnant when I went to a wedding once and I wore a big white dress shirt (tent).  I didn't even think about it being white until I was there and then I felt super bad like everyone was staring at me.  I'm sure it was no big deal though. I told my mom at my wedding she couldn't have a shred of white on, but that was because she was escorting me down the aisle.  I was more horrified that the best mans date had a dress on that couldn't drift 2 inches up or down, otherwise things would start hanging out. 

bbyckes

I love TJ's conviction.  (not being sarcastic) I don't know how much I'd care.  If it was all sequin-y and had sparkles and rouching and a train, then I think I'd have a problem.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Yeah, no one's going to mistake a guest in white for the bride. After all, I doubt someone else at my wedding will be wearing a crinoline or something with silver beading... They make me sort of noticeable. Oh, and the veil.

SarieP

I don't know how much I'd care. If it was all sequin-y and had sparkles and rouching and a train, then I think I'd have a problem. Now that would change things for sure.

goheels05

Many may consider the "don't wear white to a wedding so as not to upstage the bride" rule to be outdated, but the fact is, it exists, and most all adults are aware of it. It would deeply hurt my feelings if someone, knowing it is improper, wore white to my wedding. It's not polite, even if you're okay with itAgreed.  But I love it when some whiney beebee comes on here ranting and raving that they heard someone plans on wearing white to her wedding.  You know she's just high strung and obnoxious and someone told her that to set her off and watch her head spin.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Oh, and while it's not a big enough deal to make a stink over, I WOULD assume the person just doesn't know the rules of etiquette. And I would never do it to someone else.And who owns a white ballgown, unless they are a bride or a debutante?

Night_Sprite

What time of year was your wedding?  I think the summer people wear more white and don't even think about it.

egeiger

This bride is planning to wear red shoes. Family knows it. Step-sister (last to find a person, hits on all her bro-in-laws) informs me that she is wearing a red and white dress with red shoes. I think she wanted to try to get under my skin. It does. But, I told her to wear whatever she wanted, I was sure no one but her would notice what she was wearing anyway

SarieP

It was summer.  She wore a white knee length strapless dress that had a baby blue belt and she wore a white cardigan over it.

Night_Sprite

I need to start proof reading.  That was supposed to say "In the summer people wear more white without thinking about it."

SarieP

Night Sprite, I gotcha.  I'm pickin up what you're puttin down!

goheels05

Mr. Heels' 19 year old cousin wore a white prom dress to their other cousin's wedding.  True story.  (she didn't know any better.  she told MoG what she was wearing, and she told her that it would be perfect.)

lpstl

I think my mother would freak out more than I would- she's all into "the rules".^ThisMy Grandmother (Dad's mom) wore a white dress to my parents wedding 30 years ago and Mom is still biitching about it. Granted, it was a floor length white islet dress, and way inappropriate, but she just honestly had no idea it wasn't ok.

Mrs_AF

As long as people are wearing clothes to my wedding, I'm happy.

buttaflai

One of my best friends got married this summer too and her best man's gf wore white. It was THE talk of the night about how rude she was. My friend didn't really mind. I would have been a little peeved though. It's just what you expect to see the bride wear, not the guests.

Night_Sprite

I won't be concerned with the attire of my guests.  I have some really hicky family.

carrieoz_76

When one of my friends got married last year her mom wore a white dress.  My friend was not happy, and I wouldn't have been either. It's not that if they wear a white dress they'll be mistaken for the bride (hard to do) but that the person wearing it craves attention at a time that they should sit back and be supportive. A regular old guest, tho?  I don't know that I'd notice enough to care.

Pirata13

Sarie, all I can say is Boondock Saints 2 OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG I have been waiting....

lalap69

When my sister got married, it actually took a lot of effort on her part and mine to convince my grandmother that it was okay for her to wear the gorgeous white suit dress she'd found.  All my sister cared about was that she felt good about what she was wearing.  I like to think I'll be the same way.Personally, though, I wouldn't wear white to a wedding.  If it hasn't been approved by the bride, it's rude.

ootmother2

the niece that wore all white to the wedding had already distracted me so much by her hysterical sobbing during the vows that I didn't notice until someone pointed it out.