give me the cash....

jlagostino

I recently received a wedding invitation from a friend that had something interesting printed at the bottom in small font that said... "respectively no boxed gifts please". I was at first shocked at this but then started to think maybe it's smart. Is it still seen as completely rude to politely ask for cash as a wedding gift or is it maybe ok?!?!?!?

Nebb

They meant they want all of their gifts in baskets or bags. Duh!

salt78

Oh it's still completely rude.

julezlee

Asking for cash is always rude. I would give them something in a gift bag if they put that on an invitation to me. And take the gift out of the box so they couldn't return it.

stina93446

Yes still completely rude. If I got that invite, I'd bring the gift I bought in the largest box I could find.

shellydiane820

Its never okay.  Your friend has no manners.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Any mention of gifts on any invite (baring showers, sort of) is rude. Period. That means no mention of "no gifts," no mention of registries, etc.

anna.oskar

ditto julez. If this was on an invite I received, the sender would definitely get a gift not in a box. Probably one of these:

ZRex

I think it's kind of hilarious that they were not only rude but said "respectively" and not "respectfully." My dad tried to get me to do the same thing...I guess regifting runs rampant in my parents' circle of friends, and it's now the NORM to do this. I told him that I'd be happy to donate any regifts without gift receipts to goodwill.

lyndausvi

I think it's rude. And BTW no boxed gifts at the reception does not mean you can't send one to the couple's house.  Just saying Regardless any mention of gifts on an invite is a no-no.  

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A fur covered turd doesn't necessarily have to be in a box. What about a cage? Can would they accept caged gifts?

crfische

I would get them this poster: In THIS box:

goheels05

OMG Anna, wtf is that thing?!Homegirl would totally be getting something handmade and monogrammed from me.  Have you seen The Office where Phyllis asks Pam if anyone was getting her a handmade mailbox?  Yep.  That's what she'd be getting.I've told this story before, but my grandma got a graduation announcement that said "no gifts, please" at the bottom.  I assume it meant "send cash and checks only."  Grandma didn't get it.  And she still sent a gift.  A cheap, crappy one.  I LOLed.

goheels05

A fur covered turd doesn't necessarily have to be in a box. What about a cage? Can would they accept caged gifts?I love you.

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I love you more.

mandysmear

yup it's rude.  i would give them a gift in a bag.  fuuckers.

anna.oskar

Heels:  That is a lovely wedding cake made entirely out of bathroom towels and cloths in the color of my choosing.  No tags, so sadly, the towels cannot be returned. Best gift EVER!  i make them and gift them whenever someone tries to tell me what to give for a gift.  I'm usually a registry buyer, but if someone asks for cash or I find them excessively tacktacular, they get the towel cake.  I do use nice towels though.  You can order them online and shipped direct.  I give diaper cakes for baby showers.  

thesuninherhead

They 'respectively' asked for no boxed gifts? Manners seem to be the least of your friends' problems.

missy68

Don't forget to cut the tags off................This is why we didn't register, and why my mom was in charge of telling anyone who asked, not me. My line was, "it isn't really necessary." Depending on who asked, I sometimes added, if you really want to do something, we are working on the house and trying to make home improvements, like redoing floors/painting/replacing windows and something like a Lowes g/c would be appreciated, but it totally unnecessary.I usually ignored the question.

LesPaul

Respectively?  Rude, and no command of the English language either.  Not ok.

squirrly

Asking for gifts of any sort is not ok.  Boxed, bagged, naked, whatever.  (true for all "gift giving" occasions)It's smart if she wants to piss people off.  Otherwise, notsomuch.  Seriously, you invite GUESTS to your wedding.  Not GIFTGIVERS. 

phoeny_moonstar

I'd get the biggest box I could find and wrap it with one faux silver candlestick in it.

Mrs. Chapiko

There is no "polite" way to ask for cash.  You're friend's little note is appalling and extremely tacky.  She isn't sending invitations - she's sending an invoice.  Shaking your guests down for cold hard cash isn't okay.  I'd decline to attend if I received such a rude invitation.

sunflowerbride5

I got an invitation yesterday to one of FI's friends' weddings. They not only included where they're registered - they included huge color logos of the store with website and 800 numbers. Saying no boxed gifts might be worse, but I was pretty appalled. FI, on the other hand, thought it was pretty genius, which is why I am doing most of the wedding planning!