Mom is driving me BSC

haggartc

I love my mom. I really do. But she's convinced she has a say in the bridesmaids dresses. My sister, who is MOH, wants to be different than the other girls...not a problem for me. So my thought was to have everyone pick a floor-length gown in apple from DB and Meg gets her way and everyone is comfortable. She told me last night that she doesn't want to come to the wedding because the bridesmaids will look stupid wearing different dresses in the same color. (I'm assuming she was venting, but we've been fighting about other stuff too, so it was a bit hurtful)Please tell me I'm not being crazy by wanting my bridesmaids to be comfortable by choosing their own gown.

Nebb

No youre not. Its possible she has never seen it done before, so isnt sure of how it will look. I would try to find pics of it to show her, to ease her mind a bit.

mandapanda78

My bridesmaids are all wearing different dresses in the same color, too. I guess your mom won't come to my wedding either. By the way, next time she says that may I recommend, "Wow, Mom that's too bad. You'll be really missed!"

janedoe1113a

A lot of people do that.  If your mom doesn't want to come to your wedding because of your BM dresses, she need to get her priorities straight.

ootmother2

I'm a MOB and I say you are not crazy.She probably has another issue bother her and took it out on you.  Wait a weeks or so before you discuss anything wedding related again.JMO

ootmother2

*bothering

LesPaul

Can you show her some pics of WPs with the BMs wearing different dresses?  It's not a cardinal sin for them to not wear the exact same dress.  Not coming to the wedding for that reason is really ridiculous.

Leah&Christian09

"Mom, the BMs have already ordered their dresses. It's done. How's grandma?" I suspect the threat to not come over this issue was just to get under your skin, but if she repeats it, "sorry you feel that way. You'll be missed. How's grandma?"

bbyckes

You're not crazy, momma is.  Since when is a bridesmaid dress reason enough to boycott a wedding? It isn't.

squirrly

I'm going to have mis-matched dresses too.  Same designer, same color, same fabric.  Different lengths, cuts, everything.  It will be fine - and it sounds like yours will be much more uniform than mine.  Just avoid the topic with your mom for a while & hopefully she'll come around.  I seriously doubt that she would boycott your wedding because of bridesmaids dresses. 

haggartc

I'm sure she has every intention of being there...I think she just wants to control absolutelyeverything.

morainemom

MOB here (my daughter got married last Friday!) - yeah, the bridesmaids really looked stupid at my daughter's wedding - the MOH had a different gown than the bridesmaids.Why oh why did I go the wedding and just beam all day and night? What was I thinking? I should have stayed home and watched The Ghost Whisperer!You'll probably have to cut and paste the link I've posted below. (I fail miserably at posting pictures.) This is just a candid shot of the bridesmaids - but they look positively beautiful and everyone loved their different gowns.Your Mom need to get a grip - it's your wedding, she would be sharing in your joy and happiness and helping you with some stress-free planning.http://tinyurl.com/yjgd4r8

thesuninherhead

Can you show her a few pictures of weddings like that? It's VERY common and not at all stupid for BM's to wear different gowns. Perhaps because she hasn't seen it before it is stressing her?Mine wore the same dress, but one wore it strapless, another with straps, and another with a cardigan over it. I wanted them to be comfortable and didn't mind one way or another. It was quite obvious they were all BM's regardless of their various dress styles, shoes and hair.

haggartc

Thanks ladies...    I'm going to look around and find some pics of non-matching bridesmaids to show to her. Hopefully that will help and there will be less snarky comments from her!

dianenjnj

no, you're fine...your mom, on the other hand, is freaking out waaaay too soon with a wedding that's over a year away!