Ring bearer vs Flower Girl

Sewilson33

I was planning on only have a ring bearer for our wedding. Between the two of us there is only one young girl and it is my cousin's daughter but I don't feel right have her as my flower girl because we aren't super close. I was planning on just having my sister's son be our ring bearer and by the time our wedding comes around he will be 2 years old. Is this bad? Do I neeed a flower girl?

LesPaul

No.  You can have either, both, or neither.  2 years old might be a little young to do the RB duty unassisted.  Most kids that age will not cooperate with the plan when the ceremony starts.

danieliza1127

You don't need either.  Just do what you want.  There are no rules here.We didn't have a flower girl or ring bearer just because we didn't want kids in the wedding, even though we had plenty to choose from.

ac_in_dc

No, you don't need either. Two sounds young for a ring bearer. Definitely have someone walk down with him.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I was a flower girl at age two. So he can do it. All he has to do is walk down the aisle. But don't expect him to follow direction too much. If your sister is in the wedding party it will be easier, since he can just run to her.And I'm not having either a RB or FG. I just want a small wedding party.

BostonBride919

Whatever you want to have is just fine- Neither is required. We had 2 flower girls and no RB...

Calypso1977

you can have one or the other or neither or both. 2 is very young.  he most likely will cause a scene.  i personally wouldnt have one that young but if you really want him there, then its fine to have just him.  i'd figure out who's going to walk with him, or maybe your sister can walk with him.

Catwoman708

You can have just one, both, more than one of each, or none. They really serve no usueful purpose, just look cute. Personally, I'm not a big fan of having children in weddings, most especially when they are that young or if you want an adults only wedding. The more common age for FG or RB is 4 to 7 years old. I would avoid the hassle and extra expense, unless the parents just really, really wanted their child in the wedding, are willing to go to the trouble, and expense of the attire, and you are inviting other children as well. For you it adds to the cost of the RD, and the "accessories needed", like FG basket and extra flowers, the RB pillow and bout, and the logistics of how to get the kid to "perform" for your wedding without freaking out and crying, or getting stage fright.