Wedding Etiquette Forum

my sister, the d-bag

my mom is retiring on friday after 26 years with the government.  she has been working for a total of 50 years.  she's been widowed for 10 years, and has kept up and maintained the family home to the best of her ability.  she has now made this decision after much thought and contemplation over the past 2-3 years.  she's essentially maxed out her pension, meaning, she's at a point where she has her age, her years of service, and there's no potential to possibly get a bigger check.  on top of her pension, she's got deferred comp and investments.  she has zero debt, and i'm happy for her that she's finally throwing in the towel.  she's worked very hard for a long time, often 2 jobs at a time.my sister actually got pisssed at my mom, telling her its stupid to retire now with this economy, and that she cant believe she isnt going to work for a few more years until things are better.  i secretly think my sister is just in fear that my mother will no longer have excess cash to throw her way.  as if that's my mother's responsibilty, to subsidize her 40 year old daughter.  i'm so happy for my mom, as is the rest of the world, and my d-bag sister is trying to ruin this for her.

Re: my sister, the d-bag

  • Congrats to your mom on her retirement, it sounds well deserved.  And your sister definitely sounds like a d-bag.
  • I will ninja said sister if you want.
    Crosswalk
  • Congrats to your mom. Your sister sounds like a real gem.
  • Even if it's not technically your business, I might just have a talk with mom about NOT continuing to throw money your moochy sister's way. She seems like she won't care that your mom is on a reduced income now, and will still expect her to give her money. My 20 year old sister will be the same way in 20 years. Go mom!!
  • Is your sister my aunt? They sound like the same person.
    Photobucket
  • Good for your mom!  Yeah, 50 years of work is definitely long enough to retire.  Your sister needs to STFU.
  • oh, my mom has had it.  my wedding was the last straw for her.  they had a big fight back then, because my sister couldnt understand why my mom wouldnt buy plane tickets for 6 people and pay for a hotel and rental car.  the plug has definitely been pulled.
  • Okay, I remember that now! Well, good on mom for telling her adult daughter to be an adult. I always hope that people like that have kids just like themselves so they have a taste of their own medicine.
  • Congrats to your mom! She's definitely put in more than her share of hard work for one lifetime. I'm glad she sees what your sister is up to, too. I want to punch her for you, and it's none of my business. :)
    image
  • Tell your sister to STFU and send your mom flowers.  That is a huge milestone.
    my read shelf:
    Amber Lea's book recommendations, liked quotes, book clubs, book trivia, book lists (read shelf) imageTell Me A Tale
  • It seems that she would be at or close to retirement age already if she has worked for 50 yrs.  She deserves to retire.  You sister does sound like a d-bag...
  • haha, its funny, i sent her flowers to arrive today, for her last week.  i asked H the other night "should i put sis's name on the flowers"?  he said i probably should, in case anyone sees the card.  i defied him, and just put my and H's name on it.  :-)~
  • marie, she's 64.
  • If you mom hasn't caught on to your sister's manipulative tactics, have a chat with her. You don't want her to blow through her retirement savings just to satisfy your sister's expensive taste. Because then the burden would likely fall on you. But if your mom is good with money and your sister is just being a jerk... well, then I agree that she's a d-bag!
    my read shelf:
    Meredith's book recommendations, liked quotes, book clubs, book trivia, book lists (read shelf)
    40/112

    Photobucket
  • Congrats to your mom, retirement is great! Does she have any plans for after she is done work?
  • she's going to take a few months to relax, go through her house (she's contemplating selling and moving to be closer to me, but that's in the works).  she most likely will go to florida for a few weeks to stay at her brother's place (he and his wife are snowbirds).  other than that, she's gonna sleep late, get on an exercise plan, and do whatever she wants!
  • Thats great! My mom retired last year and loves it.
  • of course, all the smartasses here at work are saying "oh, now you can have a baby - mom can be your daycare!".
  • My mom retired a little over a year ago. She is far happier and healthier now.  And has totally dove in to the wedding stuff.  We'll be doing some crafts this winter...
    Crosswalk
  • First of all, congrats to your mom!  Second of all, your sister's concerns about retiring at this time are not only selfish, they are incorrect.  She will be drawing a pension presumably based on her final salary and years of service, which has nothing to do with the economy.  She may have taken a hit on her investments and deferred comp if she hadn't already moved them to a more conservative portfolio so close to retirement, but since she's not going to be liquidating the account her money will have time to continue to grow. In short, your sister is, in fact, a d-bag.  I'm sorry.
    TTC since 07/11 Me: 32 AO PCOS/DH: 32 Lowish count/motility IUI#1-3 = BFN (Clomid, Clomid-->Femara, Injects) IVF#1 ER on 9/24 19 ER/19 M/9 F w/ICSI Transferred a 5AA and a 5BB on 9/29 Beta 10/9 = 139 Beta 10/11 = 287
    imageimageAlternaTickers - Cool, free Web tickers

    My Blog

  • Congrats to your mom and kudos to you for looking out for her.  Too bad your sister didn't get any of those responsible genes....oh well.  Sometimes there isn't enough to go around.  :-)
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards