Groom's last name on invites?

leisenbrey

Hello,So I have been snooping around and have found some good info, but still am confused about invitation wording.My invites will go like this: Mr and Mrs Bride's parents request the honor blahblahblah at the wedding of their Daughter to Groom, son of Mr and Mrs.So from what I've read I'm only supposed to use my first and middle names and NOT my last (is this correct?). So then, do I leave off my fiance's last name? Since he has the same last name as his parents (who are also listed)?My mom is worried that if I include his last name but not mine, people will think my middle name is my last name (my middle name does sound like a last name).Help and thanks!!!!

gkb0910

You leave off your last name if it's the same as your parents, otherwise it would be redundant.  Since your FI's last name is the same as his parents, who are listed, then leave his name off too.

ootmother2

No, the bride's last name does not go on the invite when it's wordered that way.---------------------------------------------their daughterSusan Marieto Mr. Joseph James Smith

tenofcups4me

With "son of," the groom's last name is typically not listed either since it comes on the next line with his parents.

mmm_080809

Traditional invites reflect the situation where only the bride's family hosted the wedding, and only her parent's names were on the invitation (not the groom's parents). The whole "son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom's parents" line is a relatively new addition. So the bride's last name was left off because it was redundant - her parents' last name was already on the invitation. The groom's last name was listed though, because his last name didn't appear anywhere else. If both sets of parents are being listed on the invite, there's no need to include either the bride's or the groom's last names (assuming traditional nuclear families where the bride's and groom's last names are the same as their parents). Of course if you want to write out both full names, I doubt it's something most people would notice or care about. But I'd be consistent - either include both of your last names or neither of them.

ootmother2

I don't know, I've never seen an invitation with "son of"

leisenbrey

Thank you! I'm new to these boards and can't believe the great advice I received so quickly! I think I'll leave his last name off as well then. Thanks!

stina93446

I would leave his name off if his parents' names are the same.

leisenbrey

Has anyone used "son of" in an invite? I thought it was fairly common but maybe I should just avoid it? My parents are paying, but he's their only child (so they'll never get to "host" a wedding) so I thought it would be nice. They've also been really great to me over the years and feel like they should be mentioned somewhere....is there a diff way I should do this?

tenofcups4me

It's the norm in my circle. Apparently not so common in some other crowds, but I personally think it's really nice. Even if the groom's parents aren't paying half and therefore "hosting" the wedding, seems to me that they should be acknowledged in some way (unless the couple has big problems with them).