Do I need a MOH?

ejfleitz

I've just gotten engaged, and we're starting to plan our wedding (June 2011), getting together our wedding party. My fiance knew right away who would be his best man, so now it's up to me to pick a maid of honor. (we're planning a small wedding, so we will have only one attendant each.) The problem is, I don't have any close female friends who I'd feel comfortable asking. I don't have any sisters or close female family members either who could be that role. So, my question is, do I need a maid of honor? And if so, what do I do?

sucrets4

Absolutely.  You marriage won't be valid without one.

J&K10910

Don't ask anyone yet.  And no, you don't.  But a lot could change in the next two years, know what I'm sayin'?

lauralaur

I don't have a maid of honor. There's no NEED to have one. BTW, why can't I italicize anymore? Capitalizing makes me feel like I'm yelling.

anna.oskar

I'll be your MOH!  What are the perks?

sucrets4

Stop yelling at me, laura.  *sniff*

LesPaul

Well, you have 20 months to figure this one out.  And no, you don't necessarily have to have any attendants at all.

laurenclaire1386

Whatever you do, don't ask too early.  And then come back to TK and ask if you can change/kick out your MOH.  Consider this very carefully.  You have a really long time.  You also don't have to have a MOH.

brookelynpaisley

No, you don't. Don't ask your bridal party this far out anyway. For several reasons why, check out the Wedding Party board for threads about brides wanting to boot bridesmaids. In two years, you may very well have close friends you'll want to ask.

tidetravel

First - DON'T pick your wedding party this early. Wait until about 6-9 months out. Relationships change over time, and you don't want to end up back on here asking how to fire a BM or MOH. No, you don't need a MOH, or BMs for that matter. And your bridal party doesn't have to be just women. If you have men that you are close to, they can stand up for you.

tidetravel

Laura - [i*]for italics, insert quote here and remove stars[/i*]

missy68

As long as you have a witness (or witnesses, some states require two) for your wedding, you do not need a wedding party.We did not have a MOH or a BM.  My brother and SIL signed as our witnesses.We are all unanimous in agreeing to not ask your wedding party now. Wait, wait, wait.

fangsiting

Do you have any close male friends or do you really just have no friends?  It's OK to have a man of honor, but I'd wait to ask anyone b/c your wedding is a long way off. 

lauralaur

Tide - I feel like that's a lot of effort to italicize. I'll stick to yelling. Yes that's right sucrets, I'll keep yelling at you... and you'll like it!

SarahSmile23

hire one

jamm2019

You do not need one... But I agree with other people.  You have a while to ask people to be in your wedding party so I would wait because things can change...