Where does he go?

Lanyer

Do ushers sit at the head table? We originally had two ushers but one of our groomsmen backed out and one of our ushers stepped up. So now we have one usher and I don't know where to put him, any ideas? He is dating a bridesmaid so I thought head table but wanted to check here first.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

We seated our ushers at the head table with us, but he could be seated with other friends if you don't have room. I think it's a nice gesture if he sits at the head table though, since he's the only usher.

calle28

Let him sit with his date.

Leah&Christian09

He, and all of your WP, should be allowed to sit with their dates.

JaimeeP

He should sit with the bridesmaid that he is dating. Ushers are part of the wedding party, so they should be seated accordingly.

Gabs71109

All bridal party members should sit wth their dates.

Lanyer

I asked my bridal party about sitting with their dates and they all expressed to me that they would rather sit at a head table with me and my FI. They said that is how they imagined it would be when they agreed to be in the wedding and that they would be honored to sit with us. Thank you though for your concern about my WP and their dates.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

We actually had a captain's table, rather than a head table. So, all of the WP and their dates sat there. Yes, we had 25+ people at our table, but it was really fun. I wouldn't have done it any other way. If that's an option for you, it might be something to consider. Your WP could sit with their dates AND with you and your FI.

Bobbysprncss

Let their dates sit with them. I was at a friend's wedding and my FI was the BM. I had to sit at another table with people that I didn't know because they only had the wedding party at the head table. Also, everyone left the head table after about 10 min. when the photographer took some pictures and sat at empty tables with their dates (there wasn't assigned seating).

Leah&Christian09

Did you also poll their dates to make sure they were ok with you being rude to them?

Lanyer

Yes Leah I did. I polled all of them and had them sign permission slips that I was allowed to be rude to them! lol. Obviously I am joking but really the head table is not an issue for my friends or their dates. Several members of the WP are dating each other and the others are part of a large group of friends who will be at the wedding and sitting together. In my situation I think it would be more rude to have a captain's table with dates. The groomsman who left our wedding did so because he was previously engaged to a bridesmaid. She broke it off unexpectedly and he is so devastated that he cannot even come to the wedding (the wedding would be 2 days before their 6 year mark). He and I are still good friends and FI and I assured him we understand. Problem is his ex (and our BM) is dating someone new and I like this guy too but I don't want him at our head table as I feel it would be like replacing my friend with this new guy. I understand they both need to move on and that is between my friend and BM but we are not going to replace him at our wedding. I feel the best way to avoid this problem is to have a head table which is what EVERYONE involved (WP and dates) expected and welcomed from the begining. As I mentioned before WP would be insulted if I didn't sit them with me and FI. They have told us this.