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alixzafiris

I posted this on the Chit Chat board and it was recommended to post it here. ThanksDED

kikibaby

No, the church will not marry you again, because you will already be married.  What you would be doing is a vow renewal. Don't lie to your family.

sucrets4

bwahahahahaEpic win for the CC ladies!

jajph1974

Oh boy .....

Night_Sprite

You don't do this.  It is manipulative to others.  What if other people find out?  Why do you need to get married this year?  You only get one "real wedding."  Fail.

ac_in_dc

it was recommended to post it hereThis should be interesting. I don't think you'll find very many folks on this board who will think it's a good idea to secretly marry.Why not just schedule a vow renewal a year after you get married by a JOP this year? Some people frown on vow renewals, but generally I think they're OK and waay better than lying to everyone.

jessjo04

That's a fabulous idea! Why didn't I think of that?

Kati0105

After alot of happenings we've decided it would be beneficial to us to get married this year.Please do tell about these happenings.  But only because I'm curious - regardless of what they are you can only have one WEDDING.  You can throw a VOW RENEWAL on your one year anniversary and call it that - it is NEVER ok to lie to your friends and family.

ricksang

Why do you want to have a real wedding after?

arbolita

YOU MAKE ME STABBY.If you are going to have two weddings, which is silly to begin with, don't keep it a secret from people.  You will destroy your relationship with them and make them cry and basically they'll never trust you again.

sucrets4

But daddy, I want an oompa loompa!!!!!!

melissainabq

Does health insurance have anything to do with these "happenings?"

LesPaul

Your 'real wedding' is when you become husband and wife.  At the courthouse, in your scenario.  Why keep it secret?  You can still have a vow renewal in a church, with a reception, at some later date - as long as you are up front with family & friends that you are already married.

lyndausvi

Most churches will marry you again, because they seperate civil from religious. As far as keeping it a secret.  I think that is a bad idea.  Someone ALWAYS finds out.  

harbor_girl

If you don't want to piss off your friends and family, don't do this. End of story.

freckled*bride

bwahahahahaEpic win for the CC ladies!It would be more funny if it wasn't P&E ladies on CC that recommended this. But it's still funny.

sucrets4

arbs - I always get sad for you when people post this shiit because you dealt with it first hand, and I can't imagine how horrible it must be to have your own flesh and blood lie to you. 

sucrets4

freckled, I realized that after.  But it still had me laughing out loud!

Mrs.B6302007

How do we keep it from being known at work when we update our status and insurance?So you want to lie on legal paperwork?

[Deleted User]

Ooooh secret weddings! Is that your theme?

SarahPLiz

In the US, wedding = civil or church ceremony and you only get one. That's just the way it is. You can certainly have your marriage blessed in the church after a civil ceremony, but it is not a wedding, it is a marriage blessing. In Europe it is seen a bit differently, but you are in MN, so you get the US version. And don't lie to people. Its generally not nice, and always leads to trouble down the road. If the reasons you need to get married early are valid and reasonable, then any reasonable person should understand. Hiding it so you can have a pretty princess day and still get gifts (not saying this is you, but it sounds like it) is just plain wrong. People move their weddings up for all types of circumstances. That's how we deal with life.

betrothed123

* I posted this on the Chit Chat board and it was recommended to post it here. Thanks**Well, this is the proper place

sucrets4

So you want to lie on legal paperwork?B, they're not going to lie on paper (remember, they HAD to get married now), just to their friends.  They just don't want people seeing the paper and guessing.

[Deleted User]

But daddy, I want an oompa loompa!!!!!!I love you.

arbolita

Seriously.  I get that there are legitimate reasons for getting married quickly and then celebrating it later.   But there is no reason to lie about it if you are still getting "married" later.  People will find out, it's just a matter of When, and it really an awful feeling when they do. 

sucrets4

cew + sucrets =

fangsiting

Are you pregnant?

kate51485

After a lot of happenings...Please describe if you want to sound like you have some validity for this.

ExpatPumpkin

[i]No, the church will not marry you again, because you will already be married.[/i] I can't speak for all faiths, but the Catholic church will marry you after a JOP ceremony, assuming at least one of you is Catholic. A JOP ceremony is not a religious sacrament, therefore you wouldn't be married in the eyes of God (according to Catholics)... As for the rest of it, I don't think you should lie

ricksang

I don't think she will answer, dang.