Would This be Rude?

Party of 9

Hi All,Our venue has an upstairs, were the reception will be, a kitchen and a downstairs. I thought since we will not be using the downstairs, it would be nice to set it up so that the kids can have arts and crafts and games, things like that. Would it be rud to ask around and see if a few people would be willing to take turns watching the kids, or perhaps offer some of the teens a job doing it?

Kati0105

I would definitely pay someone (preferably someone with childcare experience versus a teenager) and not ask your guests.

kikibaby

Hire someone, don't make your guests do it (even if they're teenagers).

fangsiting

Please do not ask your guests to work at your wedding. 

opalsky007

If you have to ask...Why not hire a neighborhood kid who's not an invited guest? Or better yet, someone who does daycare and can handle a group?

ExpatPumpkin

Yes, it would be rude. Guests are supposed to have fun at your wedding, not work Just hire a few college/high school students to oversee the kids. I'm sure you could get a couple of sitters for $100.

smcdonald03

Party of 9 please explain more. Are you asking if it would be RUDE to ask your wedding guests to take turns watching the children??? If you are..... Yes. Hire a sitter or have parents keep them with them or don't invite them.

ootmother2

get a babysitter

carrieoz_76

If you asked me to do this, I'd leave, and I'd take my wedding gift with me.

smcdonald03

Carrie, So would I.

BubbleJ

I would personally ask the teens if they wanted to do it for a bit of money. I would have done it for $50 when I was a teen. I got bored at weddings when I was a young teen and ended up playing with the kids anyway. And if the kids are going to be their siblings etc chances are they are expected to watch the kids anyway, they may as well get paid for it. If not then hire a babysitter

janedoe1113a

Hire a babysitter.  There are babysitting companies out there because personally I wouldn't trust my kid with a strange teenager.  My friend had a professional babysitter for her wedding and it was $10 an hour.

DanielleH910

How could you not see that this is beyond rude?  Why would you invite someone and then make them work?  Hire a teenager.

kebmtm071605

Yes, it would be rude to ask your guests (even the teenagers) to supervise.

Party of 9

Thank you all. I guess I should have explained a little better. Some other people alos brought this up and mentioned that they wouldn't mind switching off. Some people have mentioned that they wouldn't feel very comfortable with a stranger watching their kids. I'm thinking probably finding one of the teens who don't really want to sit thru the reception, and there are a few.Thanks again.

NcsuPsych

sitterconnection.com . . they do reference and background checks on all sitters. . Im not sure on what the pay is. . otherwise, I would say hire a local neighborhood teenager or something. .  Even if parents offered to keep an eye on them , I wouldn't ask them to. Goodluck

ExpatPumpkin

Just hire a sitter or two and if the parents are really uncomfortable they can go sit with their own kids. I would imagine that the vast majority of parents will be fine with it and join the party. I mean, it's not like they're leaving the kid with a stranger and fleeing the country - they'll be upstairs. You'll always have the crazy helicopter mom type who can't leave little Johnny with someone else for 15 seconds... But don't punish the rest of the parents by indulging her logic that no other human being can possibly be trusted with her little snowflake.

AngelaOct11

Our reception was at a museum that my mom works at.  We had an area for the kids with some crafts, snacks, and balloon animals.  We hired a college student who works in kids art classes at the museum and he brought along his girlfriend and his friend.  It worked really well the kids had a good time.  We also had a movie going in the room for kids to watch if they wanted.  The room was across the hall from the reception room so the kids could just go back and forth throughout the night.