My mom is weird

sarah0725

So, for reasons that are long and complicated, there's a possibility that FI and I will be spending our New Year's Eve in Vegas. I told my mom this last night, and also joked with her that I had suggested to FI that we elope while we were out there. At first I think she thought I was semi-serious, but I assured her I totally wasn't (I love the wedding we are planning), and a bit later, she started going on and on telling me that if that's what FI and I want to do, it would be fine with her, and we should just get married however we want, and if we want to elope that's okay.Aren't moms supposed to discourage this kind of thing?

brookelynpaisley

Hmmm. I could see both sides. What mom doesn't want to see her daughter get married? On the other hand, if she knows you're with the right guy and just wants you to be happy, then I could see how she'd be all for it. Maybe she's just thinking about all the ways in which planning a wedding can be stressful and is thinking eloping isn't such a bad idea, especially since you have so long to wait. The good thing is, your mom wants you to do whatever would make you happy.

sarah0725

I guess the solution is that I should stop making jokes about stuff that people seem to think I might actually do.

FutureMrsDudley55

Haha my parents would love if I would get married in Vegas. Less money and they love going out there.

tmm140

I was going to say the same thihng. My parents would probably love it too--as long as I let them know about it first and didn't just run out there.

Nebb

I think its sweet she would support your decision like that.

MeaghanandMichael

Aw she's too cute. Make sure to take pics if you get the whim to do it

sarah0725

Haha Meaghan! I really don't think that would end up happening, because I'm pretty set on getting married in the belly of an elephant... but first I need to convince FI that Vegas on NYE is a good idea. I'm working on it.

sucrets4

My mom would say the same thing.  She'd take time to think about it and then focus on the good stuff and support us.  Good for your mom!

WildRumpus

Haha, when my sister was planning her wedding and being a huge zilla my entire family was encouraging FI and I to elope...my aunt even offered us money to do it! FI really wants to, but I know my dad (sisters step-dad) would be crushed if he didn't get to walk one of his kids down the aisle.

3plus2=5

My mother is just starting to understand why we're having a full blown wedding instead of just eloping with the kids.  She thinks it's a waste of time and money considering this is my 2nd.  Then she remembers that it's FI's 1st and kind of gets it.  But then goes straight back to not understanding.  It's tiring!

Catwoman708

I seem to recall having similar conversations with my daughter before her wedding. Translation: Your mom is telling you she would be personally disappointed to not be there when you are married, but that your happiness is more important. And if you do the romantice, impulsive elopement, she will understand and be happy for you anyway.