Registry Question-- Sorry for being a post-whore today

ZRex

Fi just got home from watching the game with his dad, and his mother has somehow managed to convince him that we NEED to register at Tiffany's. She seems to think that all of his relatives will want to buy him crystal and silver. I'm hesitant because a.) I think that it is in questionable taste; b.) We don't want to end up completing parts of the registry at Tiffany prices; c.) If you really want crystal and silver, there are plenty of nice places that don't have as high of markups; and d.) I'm already sick of FMIL's suggestions and we're 9 mos out. I told him I'd conduct a survey on P&E. What do you think? Is registering at Tiffany's tacky or is it ok when you have other more affordable options?

tlv204

I don't think it's tacky, but I do think you can get a whole lot more stuff elsewhere for the same price, and if the brand name doesn't matter to you I see no reason to listen to FMIL.

jajph1974

I think you should register wherever you want for the things you want. You have to live with the gifts, she doesn't

MeaghanandMichael

I certainly do not think it is tacky in any way. You do wnat to keep in mind the price range your guests normally buy in though and not expect that entire registry to be filled. The real question here is do you or don't you want to be registered there. I can tell from your post you don't seem to want to so just do what you want.Perhaps you can alleviate MIL by showing her some crystal you have picked out from Macys.

Golfer'sLady

Tiffany is never tacky. Registering there when no one on your guest list can afford it, that's tacky.It depends on your guest list and families. If you think it is best to skip it your FMIL will survive.

redheadfsu

I think if you know most of your guest can't afford it then it is tacky. If you don't want Tiffany crystal don't register there. I personally would never use Tiffany crystal.

TnJBonnell

I guess if there are certain people that are willing to and want to purchase you things from Tiffany then maybe register for a couple of things.But I would say to register where ever you want. Whatever you think people would be able to afford. Times are hard right now. And I dont think you should do what she wants, its your wedding. Your right there are nice things at other places for a more reasonable price. GL

ootmother2

You don't NEED to register at Tiffany unless there's something there that you reall want as a gift.  It's just a suggestion list anyhow, you can dream all you want.The only time I have totally objected to a Tiffany registry was when the MOB sent notes to all the guests saying that's all the couple wanted as gifts

banana468

It all depends on your guests. I don't think it would have worked for our guests but that doesn't mean that it won't work for your crowd. I'd poll some friends and family that you're very close to (wp members and parents) and that may help youbtwo make your decision.

Brie2010

I don't think it's tacky, but it's definitely regarded in my circle as being a little pretentious.  A friend of mine did it and there was a lot of "She registered at Tiffany's (eyeroll)" going on.

NotNumbers

I'd also be concerned about the cost of completing the registry.  There is nothing tacky about Tiffany's and nothing tacky about registering for crystal or silver, but it is silly to register for things you don't actually want or like.  I'd go with the more affordable options, personally.

ZRex

Brie, I think you hit the nail on the head. I mean, I'm definitely not going to kick a tiffany box out of bed, but I think it might be pretentious. I'm thinking that if it's really a tradition in their family, I might do it, but will not put the registry on the website or anything, and just rely only on word-of-mouth. I have at least four or five months before I have to decide anyway...and I also like PPs idea of just picking out some nicer stuff at Macys or Bloomies.

Brie2010

Yeah, we are registered for nice china at Macy's.  Personally, I don't mind, but it depends on your circle.  My family would think I was nuts.

ZRex

pc4rc-- I totally agree. Imagine registering for china, getting five place settings and then having to spend a trillion dollars to complete your set! If we decide to do it, we'll just pick a couple of crystal or silver things that we can use for special occaisions.

ZRex

*occasions

ootmother2

I wouldn't do a department store such as Macys or Bloomingdales unless they're the only stores available where you life.  Their mark up is even worse than Tiffany's.I don't know about china and crystal today, M will inherit mine and registered only for dayware.  They used Wm.Sonoma, Pottery Barn, Crate and Barrels and had a small registry for linens at Shabby Chic. (out of business now, sad)Almost everything they got from Tiffany was returned unless it was engraved.

tenofcups4me

Like you said, there are plenty of other places you can register for china and silver if you want. Before you make any decision, might want to check out if you even like anything at Tiffanys. We only got one present from there, but it went right back to be returned because it wasn't our style -- and we had a hell of a time finding anything else to buy there since we could only get store credit.

NotNumbers

I like your idea of choosing a couple of occasion pieces and relying on word of mouth through his family instead of putting the info on your website.  Nice compromise )

carrieoz_76

I don't think it's tacky. If you're well-off, and/or your family/friends are well-off. If little ole firmly middle class me were to do it, yes, it would be tacky. And totally ridiculous b/c I'd get nothing from it, other than some side-eyes.

uppereastgirl

We registered for china and crystal at Tiffany's.  We got almost all of it.  Tiffany's crystal really isn't that marked up compared to high-end brands that you'd see at Macy's and the like.  I don't think anyone thought it was tacky -- and many of my friends have registered there.