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Bring FI?

Hi Ladies!I'm planning on going to a few bridal shows over the next few months and was wondering whether or not FI should come...He's been very involved with the whole planning process, but I wasn't sure if it would be more appropriate for BMs to join. TIA!

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    He'd probably be bored to death.  It's a pretty girly event, so I think you'd have more fun with the BM's.
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    I went to one show, and it was with my MIL & a friend. That was it. I got the rest of my ideas/info off the internet & my local here on TK.
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    I never went to a show.   But I'm sure my DH would have been bored if I dragged him to one.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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    Just ask him if he wants to go.  If he does, take him, if he doesn't, don't make him.I only went to one and I went with my MOH because my H had NO interest in that kind of stuff at all. 
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    Don't do that to him.
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    They have lots more girly stuff, like PPs said. It's more of a girly event.
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    PS. I sincerely hope I don't see you over on the WP board complaining about your bridesmaids over the next year+ of your engagement. That's awfully early to ask anyone.
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    I went to one with my mom a few weeks ago, and there were a few guys there. The ideas I got were mostly about decorations, but there were also a few photo booths, limos, cakes, etc. If your FI is super involved in planning and wants to look at all of that stuff, then maybe you could bring him and it wouldn't be terrible. I dunno. I don't really think the bridesmaids would want to go either, honestly.
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    Ask him if he wants to go. I asked mine and he wanted to go and he went to a couple with me and he enjoyed both of them.
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    My friends would be bored to death, too. I'd go by yourself, and bring him if he wants to go.
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    Your FI does not want to go. If he says he'll go, he's only trying to be nice and make you happy. Repeat: He does not want to go. Men don't squee over bridal shows.Take your BMs, your mother, a friend, any female. Don't drag your poor FI along.
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    I'm pretty sure Mr. Penny would have rescinded the proposal if I'd made him go to a bridal show! Ask him if he'd like to go, but I can't imagine that he would.
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    I went to one, with one bridesmaid and it was more than enough for both of his. I think H would've clawed his eyes out.
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    Woah, you're over a year out and you have your BMs???
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    My H came because we heard that there would be cake samples. It depends what you want to achieve. If you want to just look at pretty things and get ideas, your BMs would probably enjoy it more. But if you want to actually meet and book vendors, your FI might want to be there. Another reason my H came is because we actually set out on a mission to find and potentially book a DJ and find a photographer, both of which he wanted to be involved with. Ditto dani - just ask him.
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    Men don't squee over bridal shows.uh, most women don't either. They go to talk to vendors.
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    Thanks ladies!  He mentioned going with me, but I wasn't sure what to expect since I had never been before.  I will probably bring on of my BM's just to be safe. :) Salt - thanks for your concern, but my bridesmaids are my sisters, FI's sister, and my lifelong best friend - no asking really involved...just assumed.
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    He will not enjoy it. I didn't even really enjoy the event. The  fun part was hanging out with my mom and sil. I saw one guy there and he was following his fi around pulling a briefcase on wheels with all her notes, books, magazines in it and she had a big binder all color coded and organized. I still feel bad for him.
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    I just talked to your FI and asked him.  He really really really wants to go! Its his wedding too!
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    That's true, if you're going to book vendors then he probably wants to go. When FI came with me he was ready with several questions for different vendors and we found our DJ and photographer.
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    Men don't squee over bridal shows.uh, most women don't either.ditto.  I'm not the type of woman who would enjoy a bridal show.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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    FI came to a show with me.  It was probably not the greatest idea, but not because he was bored.Nope.  He just got bad, bad ideas from it.

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    I went to two so far. One, my FI joined me. The other, it was me and MOH. My FI actually really enjoyed it. Not to mention, there was free food and booze. Anywho, just ask him if he wants to go. If he wants to, it's not going to harm anyone.
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    I think I would have clawed my eyes out if I had to go to one.
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    [i]I think I would have clawed my eyes out if I had to go to one.[/i] Hahaha ditto this.
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    I only went to one bridal show the first time I got married, but of course the then-FH came with me. He was as interested as I was in getting ideas and meeting potential vendors. Neither one of us enjoyed the experience in the end and we never went back to another one, but that's not a function of him being a "man." If your FH wants to come -- and it sounds like he does -- I'd welcome him and the fact that he wants to be involved. Personally, I couldn't have dealt with a FH who wasn't interested in his own wedding.
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    My DH would have killed me if I brought him to a bridal show - Bring the ladies who may actually enjoy it!
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    I've been to a couple with my DD.  There were some FIs there, most looking bored, as were the kids that were dragged along and the babies in strollers.
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