Inviting Coworkers??

Jujena26

Hi all! I'm getting married in april 10 and i JUST started a new job last month.  With that being said , everyone at my new job knows I'm getting married and is very excited for me.  I invited the whole department from my previous job since we are still very good friends.  My list is up to 230 and we really cant afford to invite more people.  Now how to approach the subject about not inviting my current job.  I would LOVE to invite them, but that would cost a total of about 2000 more which i cant see on spending.  Can i bring it up in a meeting? i feel really bad! Please help,  thank you

Archel

Sounds like you already made a guest list. They'll understand. I mean, come on, you arrived in your new position when you were already in the middle of your wedding planning. They'll understand. Just say you've already created your guestlist and in order to stick to budget, you're going with that. Or say that you want to keep your wedding to close friends and family...they'll understand since they've only known you for a few weeks. You don't have to feel the urge to bring it up in a meeting or to feel bad at all - most people don't even invite co-workers. I don't think they're expecting an invite.

aggiebug

Don't do it in a meeting! their office time does not need to be used like that.  They should understand that you have not been there that long and their are budget restraints for your wedding.  I don't think an explination is even necessary.  Most people living in the real world understand their are budgets for weddings.  If it comes up with a coworker just express the fact that you wish you could invite them but the budget won't allow it.  End of story

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Don't bring it up. How would you like to be approached by anyone and told, "I like you and all, but just so you know, you aren't invited to my wedding." I know you wouldn't say it like that, but that's what it comes off like.FWIW, I'm not inviting coworkers and I would be surprised to be invited to their weddings.

Puja20

I would not even mention it, especially not in a meeting!  I'm sure they are not expecting to be invited anyway. 

carrieoz_76

A former co-worker got married last year.  He joined the office like 4 months before he got married.  He and his now wife invited his new co-workers when they determined they had room based on RSVP's from those already invited.  His co-workers knew that they were last-minute add-ons, but didn't care.  Many went and had a great time.A B list is pretty controversial around here and it offends some ppl, but I think the least controversial people to have one for is co-workers.  I suppose that's one way to do it, if you decide to invite them.Don't say anything at a meeting, and don't make an announcement.  If you want, just invite as you have room.

Jujena26

thx for all ur responses. so basically one of the girls in the office pulled me into her office and basically said to me that she just wanted to invite me and this other girl from the office to her home holiday party. so it seems very selective bc weve gotten closer so it feels kinda weird not to address it.  ill try to avoid it but im sure it will come up.  they also been helping me some of the ideas for my wedding. i feel like i shouldnt even share ideas/thoughts of the wedding with them when im not even inviteing them

ExpatPumpkin

I think you just hit the nail on the head with your last statement: Don't discuss your wedding planning details at work. That way no one could possibly expect to be invited. Also, being invited to a Christmas party does not mean you have to reciprocate with an invite to your wedding. The two celebrations aren't on the same level: Christmas parties happen every year - your wedding, once. So, just don't chat about your wedding at work and please don't bring up the non-inviting in a meeting. That will not go over well. Sorry, but they will be laughing at you behind your back