insert foot in mouth, Jaime. Long.

pumpkinpumpkin

So...we went to dinner and a movie last night with our 4 besties. 2 of which have been acting pretty strangely for the last oh, 5 - 6 weeks or so, we haven't thought much of it because we've got out own concerns.We were the last to arrive for dinner, and C passes me an envelope, she instructs me to open it. It's an ultrasound picture. The other couple starts to laugh and jokes that the baby is another guys, etc. So, naturally, I assume it's a photoshopped ultrasound pic, and the 4 know I need a good joke, and think nothing of it.Mark sits down at the table a little while later, and C asks if I told him. I said, "tell him what?", it's clearly a joke. With tears in her eyes, C tells me it's not a joke. I felt HORRIBLE. Rewind a few weeks. C and D (her bf/baby daddy) don't have the best sexual relationship, they both openly complain about it all.the.time. D was complaining that he never "gets it". Our other friend is a bit of a flake, and mentioned that her Fi had been complaining of not "getting it" because she won't have sex for days if she's forgotten one pill (which is more responsible than just not taking it I suppose). C informs her that there are other b/c methods. I pipe up at this point and say, "I really don't understand how people get pregnant by accident these days". She definitely knew at this point that she was pregnant. Insert food in mouth, Jaime.I feel awful. I've apologized to her, and I don't think she's offended by anything I said, but I just feel awful. On another note - I thought this was funny. C & D are very cheap people. D will stop on the side of the hiway to pick up half of a tie-down, or one boot, or you name it. He is cheap. C apparently told our other friend a few months ago that she was going off birth control. Yep, apparently for their miniscule sex life, $30/month just isn't worth it.This is long.CN: my best friend is pregnant, I feel bad about things I've said in the past, I just needed to vent.

scoetto

I understand why you feel bad, P2, but I wouldn't stress over it too much. You didn't know at the time she was pregnant. But I would feel the same way you do.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

Can you blame it on alcohol? :)Don't worry about it too much, hon. You have a lot on your mind right now, and you didn't know she was pregnant. I understand you feeling bad, I would too. But you don't need more stress in your life!

georgia_bride09

I agree with pp; don't feel too bad about it. Plus, I can see how you'd be confused because it seems like the whole thing was presented in an odd way. If she's fine, you should be fine. Weird about D picking up random crap on the highway, BTW.

TheSaltyPeanut

Oh no! I seriously wouldn't worry about it... especially if she said that she wasn't offended. Side note - H and I always laugh when we see one shoe or boot on the highway. Then we make up scenarios as to why one shoe or boot is sitting on the side of the road!

ScarletGem

I wouldn't worry about it; you really had no idea, and like pp said, you've got plenty of your own stuff going on now.  Also:Insert food in mouth, Jaime.Seems right.  This typo makes me happy.

MandaBelle1211

I see no reason to feel bad.  Don't sweat it!

pumpkinpumpkin

HAHA, he's just like that. You never know when it might come in handy. We were ice fishing on the lake last winter, rode our skidoos out, and we saw him get off his and pick something up. He found a screwdriver. On the lake. And kept it. I'm pretty sure the $30/month for b/c is going to be a lot cheaper than a child. Of course, she may have planned it. Even though she's my best friend...she's been wanting to get engaged for a loooooooong time, even though D is divorced (got his gf pregnant and married her, they split up a few years later). She even mentioned a few weeks ago that if D doesn't buy her a ring with his bonus, he'll have another thing coming. Maybe it was the hormones talking.

[Deleted User]

I did a similar thing last year to a friend who was pregnant.  I didn't know at the time and she was probably trying to feel out my reaction and I basically said the same thing, "you aren't taking it right if you get pregnant, etc".  She was trying to keep the info private for a few months but ended up telling me first because she started crying right then.  Hopefully she wont' hold it against you and all will be fine.

Moneypenny424

Don't worry about it, Pumpkin.  Like PPs said, you have a lot of other stuff on your mind.  And you didn't know she was pregnant. Honestly though, I also don't understand how people accidentally get pregnant either, and I wouldn't feel bad about having said that to your friend either!

pumpkinpumpkin

hahaha...I'm full of funny typos lately. I really do blame my new nails. Not because the D and T are close together, but because I hate typing with them, and want to get it done as quickly as possible!

ScarletGem

The things we do for beauty, P2.  The typos are worth it for the comedy, though.  :-)  And ditto what Money said - I also think it's dumb to accidentally get pregnant these days.  If cost is a concern, there are so many places and ways to get reduced-price BC, and there are so many idiot-proof BC methods that I just don't get how anyone screws it up these days. 

squirrly

You all do know that BC isn't 100%, right?  I know a girl who was on NuvaRing, used correctly, and she ended up pregnant.  It's not highly likely, of course, but it is possible.  Just something to keep in mind.

[Deleted User]

I agree they aren't using it correctly a lot of the time.  I will say this about my friends and family who got pregnant off birth control and I know they didn't use it correctly.

goheels05

Ugh, that really sucks.  I don't see how people "accidentally" get pregnant, either.  I made that comment in front of someone one time, and she informed me that she got pregnant while on the pill and using condoms.  Oops.But knowing that the pill is 99% effective if used correctly, and knowing the number of people I know who "accidentally" got pregnant, something just doesn't add up, and I tend to think it's issues of contraceptives not being used correctly.

Moneypenny424

Sure, people get pregnant while using contraception, but like heels said, something isn't adding up.  No way all those people are in the .01%.  If they were, I'd feel bad, but a lot of those people forgot to take pills, etc.  Or maybe were drunk and didn't use a condom with bf/fi/dh.  That is what I don't understand.

jadebaby

Okay when I first read this I thought you meant that it was true that the baby is another guy's baby. But you mean that it is true that she is pregnant, right? If so I would not feel too bad about your response. You are going through a shitton of stuff right now. She should understand...