WR: Yep, it's tacky

pinkpinot

The Ed Hardy post got me thinking.  What do you find so annoying & tacky about weddings?  I cringe anytime I see an Alfred Angelo "Dream in Color" wedding dress. 

Brie2010

Dollar dances.  I've only seen one and it was icky.

Nebb

I think jack and jills (where you sell tickets and try to raise money for yourself) are awful. I think its rude to ever try to make money off your friends.

lpstl

Cash BarsDry WeddingsClosing the bar during dinner servicePretty much anything else that could interfere with my booze.

pinkpinot

Dollar dances should be reserved for the strip club, not wedding reception.

ExpatPumpkin

I roll my eyes at the idea of any "themed wedding:" Disney, Ed Hardy (!!!), Starbucks, etc. Also not a fan of the dresses with pops of color. I think they seem "so this year" and will make for very dated wedding pictures in the future....

anna.oskar

Tacky is: serving the cheapest(barely edible) reception food when the bride is obviously wearing the entire budget because of her spendy pnina tornai dress.

baystateapple

I went to one wedding once where the couple asked guests to "compete" for the centerpieces...by offering cash for them.  The centerpieces were fishbowls with candles and some red and pink rocks in them, but it would have been tacky even if they had been huge, flowering, and expensive.

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Dollar dances make me cringe. I feel embarrassed for all involved.

jforeman5

ditto dollar dance.Also, when the couple does a charity donation in their guests' honor rather than favors. Why not do the charity doantion in place of some unnecessary part of the wedding like decoration instead of taking something away from your guests?

Brie2010

I hate to say it, but fake flowers.  They are so rarely done well, IMO, and they just look awful.  Grocery store/farmer's market minimal flowers always look way better and can be just as cheap.  If it came down to it, I'd choose no flowers over fake.

pinkpinot

I went to a wedding last year that served bagel bites during cocktail hour. 

jamipoo79

dollar dances suck.

jamipoo79

oh, and registries w/ weird stuff on them. i know someone who has a friend who put negligee, hair remover and nail polish on their wedding registry. everything on it was either for the home (cookware, towels, etc.) or for the bride specifically. they even put a car seat on the registry.

pinkpinot

Oh and facebook has become a platform for wedding tackiness.  I've seen registry links, "events" created instead of actual invitations and people posting notes and tagging certain friends asking for their address. 

DanielleH910

I have never personally seen a dollar dance but I've read enough about them on this board and other boards and the idea of seeing one gives me douche chills. I saw lpstl mention closing the open bar at dinner time, I think my venue automatically does that but they do have wine service at each table during dinner, I thought that might be okay but now I'm wondering if I should ask to keep the bar open during dinner, I never thought of it as tacky but now I'm questioning it.

squirrly

Dollar dances 'Auctioning off' the centerpieces Open bar for WP, cash bar for guests The photog or videog sticking his tush in the guests' faces during the ceremony to get pics from their angle - esp since that means it's usually the parents who are blocked from view A different meal for the B&G or WP from the rest of the guests.  (Lobster for you while I eat rubbery chicken is NOT ok.)

baystateapple

A different meal for the B&G or WP from the rest of the guests. (Lobster for you while I eat rubbery chicken is NOT ok.)I have never heard of this, and it literally pains me to think of someone being that rude/tacky/clueless.

ExpatPumpkin

[i]Open bar for WP, cash bar for guests A different meal for the B&G or WP from the rest of the guests. (Lobster for you while I eat rubbery chicken is NOT ok.)[/i] LIES!!! People don't really do this, do they???

pinkpinot

After the Ed Hardy wedding, I do believe anything is possible.

Mrs.C-To-Be

Registering for condoms = tacky! And yes, someone I know actually did this.  When I saw it my jaw dropped.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

LIES!!! People don't really do this, do they???I really hope not. It has never occurred to me to tier my wedding like that. Otherwise, why not just cut the guest list?!

tidetravel

You may find this amusing - Stage and I were talking about it the other day on the WP board.  I don't remember all of the details, because after a while, I had to stop listening. But, here are some details of the upcoming tacktastic wedding of friend's sister. Friend = "K" Friend's sister = "G" Wedding budget approx. $5000:Spent $5000 on a ceremony/reception site only to realize that they would need to rent a tent and tables/chairs/etc. (It's a mansion out in the middle of no where, and I think they rented it for the entire weekend.) Add on another couple thousand for that.Apparently, they assume that they will get all of this money back in gifts.They realized that they spent all of their money on the site, so they figured that they could just have the reception be potluck. For 200 people. After G's mother pointed out that the potluck was rude to guests, G and FI assumed that family could/would/should just cook and cater the event for them. Not happening. G and FI don't want to provide alcohol for the guests, so they are going to put one bottle of wine of the table that everyone can share. Oh - but they are saving the money for the alcohol for an "after-party" with their friends/BP at the mansion.G invited K's inlaws to the wedding for the sole purpose of having K's FIL photograph the wedding. K told her that FIL offered to do the wedding for a couple hundred dollars. G got pissed because he won't do it for free. Needless to say, K's ILs are declining the wedding.G gave K so much crap about her wedding while she was planning it, because it was "cheap and tacky." Now, G wants to borrow all of K's decorations for her own wedding.K found out she was pregnant and will be 8 months at the time of the wedding. G kicked K out of the wedding because her "dress will be a different color."Yeah... there's sooo much more. I wish I could remember it all.

squirrly

Sadly, yes.  The bar part - experienced that at a wedding earlier this year.  It gets stranger - it was open bar during cocktail hour and then cash for reg guests once dinner started.  And no advance notice about that.  Very strange, in my opinion.  Basically, it meant the WP stayed in line at the bar all night getting tons of drinks for everybody else so they didn't have to pay.  I've seen variations on that theme before too.  And - in different states (New Hampshire, Missouri, Illinois, & Kentucky).And the lobster - yep, saw that twice.  Once was actually filet, though.  I still ate weird chicken both times.  And we went out for food after the reception because it was so bad.Seriously - if McD's beats your reception meal, you need to try again.

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Not having enought chairs for everyone to sit in during the ceremony.  

lpstl

Danielle, The last wedding I went to closed down the cash bar during dinner service. There was no wine service or anything. If you wanted a drink during dinner you were SOL. I think you can kind of get away with closing the bar if you're going to have wine service. It wouldn't go over all that well with my family, but people wouldn't be horrified or anything.

pinkpinot

Cew - HAHAHAH I really lol'd at that.Remember the girl on here with a wedding outdoors in 40 degree weather and no heat?

squirrly

And by the way, not all of my friends are super tacky like that.  I've been to lots of very nice weddings too.  Sadly, I remember the tacky ones moreso than the rest.

vgmartinez

Uninvited guests, especially when they weren't invited for a reason. Cellphones going off during the ceremony. Parents who don't take their crying babies and toddlers outside during the ceremony. Not addressing couples on invitations or making an effort to find out names - Two times we've received an invitation with only FI's name on it. We've been together for four years, engaged for 8 months. It was a given that we were both invited but would've been nice to see my name on the invite along with his.

[Deleted User]

Cew - HAHAHAH I really lol'd at that.It's sad, but I actually experienced it this summer. It was the middle of July in the south. The wedding was held in this treeless field so it was hotter than hell. About a third of the guests had to stand with their heels in the grass for the entire ceremony, which was longer than normal. And on top of everything else, I have yet to receive a TY note from the couple.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Squirrly, the last wedding I went to there was a choice of white zin or cabernet, or Bud Light for free during cocktail hour. Cash bar for anything else, including any other wine or bottled beer. During and after dinner, it was free Bud Light only. I don't know if the WP got free drinks. But they weren't cheap. $6 for Sutter Home?Oh, I might be alone, but I think having a 20 person wedding party for a 100 guest wedding is tacky.