Opinions Please?!

smcopp89

I am planning a non-traditional wedding for October 24, 2010 and wanted to get your feedback on an aspect of the wedding. I have never been a big fan of having a big wedding party, or even having one at all. I don't really have anyone that I would even begin to think to ask to be in a wedding party. My fiance's brother will be his best man, and seeing as my brothers are my best friends, I really like the idea of having them up at the altar with me, however, I am the only one, aside from my fiance, who thinks this is a good idea. What do you all think?

MeaghanandMichael

I think it is a wonderful idea.

anna.oskar

Sounds great! You should have whoever you want to stand beside you.

mwhitson14

Sounds wonderful, do it.

Sunkissed_Bride

I think that is a really sweet idea! You should have whoever you want stand beside you.

sucrets4

Why does he think it's a bad idea?  You should have people up there if you choose to, and they should be people who love and support you, regardless of gender.

Kristin789

Sure.  That's a great idea. Have your officiant come out of the side of the church, followed by FI, his brother, your oldest brother, your other brother. Then the officiant stops in the middle, with FI next to him.  Your two brothers keep walking over to the other side where they will stand for the ceremony.

kdcwedding

I agree. One of our groomsmen was a friend of mine. There's no reason they can't all be groomsmen instead of bridesmaids - just have them stand on "your side."

sarah0725

My brothers are in our wedding party. We're also doing an untraditional party, and we're definitely not doing the sort of staging where the bride and groom have "sides", because we are getting married, not playing kickball. So one of his brothers is the officiant and the other is the best man, my sister is MOH, one of my brothers and my BF are singing, and my other brother, a friend of mine, and FI's BF are doing readings. When we take pics, they'll all be haphazard rather than lined up, and the wedding party will be listed as just that, and no titles.I like to think that anyone I ask to be in the wedding party is also there because they love FI, and likewise for anyone FI asks.

Vikki2pay

Sounds like a great idea, you should have your best friend standing by your side, no matter who it is.

Leah&Christian09

The whole point of a wedding party is to have the closest and most important people in your life standing up for you.  It doesn't matter if there are 2 or 8, or if they are male or female.

redheadfsu

My two close friends went through this. (Two different weddings) . His parents didn't like a female on the groom's side. Her parents hated a guy on her side. But w/ both weddings the parents got over it, because they realized that these people were their child's closest friends. Pick who you want. I think it is very sweet to have your brothers on your side.

smcopp89

Thank you all for your reassurance! Aside from having my fiance's support, I really didn't have much good feedback from my mom or certain friends, but I am confident in my decision and plan to stick by it. I was really excited when I thought of doing this and think it'll go wonderfully! I'll keep you all posted!

e_jakiela

I love the idea. In the summer we went to our friends' wedding. The groom has too many male friends that he has known since childhood who would be offended if the other was picked to be the best man. He has a sister though, who he has been really close to and his sister was the best woman. You can have Bridesmen. You will never regret!

Koopa17

I'm having my brother stand on my side as well, I feel like he belongs up there with me.  Sometimes when I tell people this they are surprised and don't do a great job of hiding it, but I don't care.  I've had people ask me what he's going to wear...why is this even a question? He's not going to wear a dress or something.  Anyway, good luck, people will warm up to the idea eventually, and if they don't then too bad for them.

smcopp89

So glad you're doing the same! I do love the idea! I would not be complete without my brothers. We're very close and I can't see them not being up there with me. Everyone with opposing thoughts will deal for one day.