invitation to pity party enclosed

thesuninherhead

anyone care to join me?

thesuninherhead

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aMrsin09

Oh Hell yes, I'm in!  The twit secretary upset me so much yesterday I threw up when I read her email of demands.  Does a palpulating (sp?) heart for 5 hours count as aerobic excercise?

thesuninherhead

You threw up? My gosh, you must have been so upset/stressed. What happened?

colleenspencer

Will there be snacks?

aMrsin09

Well as I had said earlier, I'm not even confident she has reviewed any of the paper work with the actual atty, but the atty had sent us an 11 point plan in March.  The points included aMrs arrives in OZ, etc.  Not a hard plan to follow, and we did, down to the letter.Twit face comes back to me with a SIX PAGE (printed) email of documentation we still need and to call her to review it.I sent back an email saying that I would call her but that the atty WILL be in on the call and the call WILL happen before COB on Friday.We have a conference call tomroow at 10:30 AM.Why are you having a pitty party?Colleen, don't know about food, but I'm bringing the booze!

saschaduran

Here is my pity party.... I have a colonoscopy scheduled for Friday and I am scared. I am mostly scared of drinking the gross drink that will keep me in the bathroom all day tomorrow. I hear it tastes like metal syrup. I have to fast all day tomorrow. Only chicken broth. I have never gone without food for a day before in my life. I always feel extremely sick when I am hungry. Mostly, I am not comfortable with something in my butt when I am unconscious. Oh shiit....colleen is here. She knows I am lying.

thesuninherhead

comfort food only. This includes chocolate, nachoes, beer and wine.

aMrsin09

oooh chocolate AND rum, I am most definately in.

thesuninherhead

Why do you have to have the procedure, sascha? I'm sure it will be ok- I know it's not the most pleasant, but I do know family members who have had it and said it wasn't so bad... I totally understand you not being excited over it, though! poor thing. aMrs, I hope that the phone call tomorrow helps resolve things for you! When are you leaving?

saschaduran

Clear liquids for me...white wine sounds fine I think. I hope. Why are you having a pity party sun?

thesuninherhead

And oh, my pity party is basically nothing. I got a bit sad this afternoon because my very close friend/MOH had her birthday this week, and I asked what we were doing and she told me that she didn't want to have anything much so I suggested we'd do lunch on Saturday. My H works with her FI, and her FI asked him today if we're coming to her birthday dinner tomorrow... anyway, it turned out that the dinner is with a few of her friends from another group of friends, and she knew we had other plans so didn't invite us, but yeah... Although I told her otherwise, it still hurt a little that I wasn't invited to celebrate with her, even though I totally understood the reasoning and I know we both have other friendship groups etc. If it weren't her birthday, there'd be no issue, but I was just a little sad that it *was* for her birthday, yet I'd asked her yesterday about what she'd like to do and she'd told me nothing.

thesuninherhead

I should add that when I asked her if she wanted us to move our plans to come, she was completely apologetic and felt 100 times worse than she needed to. i didn't let on to her that I was upset, because really, more than anything it was just my ego! As it is, we're going to another friend's house for dinner so it's really a non-issue. I was just feeling sorry for myself. I know I started this thread, but I don't actually like to throw pity parties! haha. I'm happy to be a listening ear, though!

thesuninherhead

PS: Are you working tomorrow, Sascha? I hope you make it through the day despite the lack of food! Try to avoid caffeine or sugar (presuming you can actually have either), as they're mess with your sugar levels and make fasting much more difficult.

aMrsin09

Oh Sun,, I know that feeling.  It's crappy beucase you KNOW it's silly, but the feeling is still there. When I am leaving?  That seems to be the great question.  My current visa expires on the 26th.  If they don't give me a bridging visa I will have to leave by midnight.  I can get a BV with travel rights, but those may only be good for a few weeks (worthless) and they may only give me a BV with no travel rights.  Which would mean I'm stuck here until the visa is approved, which could be 3-12 months.All of this is now my attys problem to figure out.  DH and I want me out of here by 30/11, vusa status be damned.

thesuninherhead

So what are the options, then? Because you do realise that H and I will be in Perth in a week and a half, right?

thesuninherhead

I remember you saying that you'd be gone by then when I first mentioned it, but I gather that's not the case now?

colleenspencer

Sascha, the stuff you have to drink is gross, but it's not the worse thing ever.  You'll get through it.  As for the colonoscopy itself, at least you'll be knocked out right?   aMrs, I feel your pain with immigration run around BS.  DH and I are getting so fed up with the red tape as well. Sun,  my bff has a lot of friends.  For the years that we have been friends, she's always had other people to do stuff with.  I never really have the time to dod alot with her, but when I can I do.  When I started seeing DH she had jealousy issues, about me spending time with him and not her.  She has teh same issues now with my online friends.  She said that my internet friends ( like Almond's wedding ) are more important to me than she is.  Yet she doesn't see that for years I was always there for her, even when she was off doing things with others.   Friendshiops are complicated.  I understand tahts he has other friends, but she doesn't get that I shoudl as well.   I would totally be bummed though if she didn't include me in her birthday plans.

aMrsin09

They haven't even filed the application yet, since I apparently still need 6 pages worth of documentation.  So yes I will still be here in a week and a half. We can have an Internatioanl GTG!  I promise to not introduce you to the ILs :-)

saschaduran

Aww...I would feel pretty bummed about that too. I hate those situations. I have been having a lot of digestive issues this past year and I have a huge family history of colon cancer and Crohns and colitis so it is precautionary. My dad had ulcerative colitis, Crohns and colon cancer and both of my siblings have Crohns. They think it is IBS and nothing more serious, but just making sure. I am off the next 2 days for it. Tomorrow, the "cleansing" medication I have to take keeps you attached to the bathroom all day I guess. I can only have broth, coffee, tea, and gingerale. Then Friday I will be under anesthesia so I won't remember anything, but not working that day either.

colleenspencer

Sascha, teh day I had to do my bowel cleanse before my surgery I entertained myself by weighing myself after every trip to teh bathroom.  I lost 8 lbs that day, lol.   Also this is a bit TMI, but you may wanna have some sort of diaper rash cream on hand.

aMrsin09

Thesun - What brings you out to Perth?

saschaduran

I had the same idea! I weighed myself already tonight. 8 lbs!! How exciting. Maybe I will start buying it on the black market! Thanks for the tmi tip, haha. I saw a similar tip while googling the procedure tonight. Thank god...I didn't even think of that part of it. My poor brown buckeye.

thesuninherhead

Sorry to run off girls, but our internet is dropping in and out as there's a huge storm here. But yes: aMrs, sounds like there may be a gtg! Unless your phone meeting tomorrow is super-effective! I'll have my fingers crossed for you. colleen: I know what you mean, and it's funny because she has previously felt sad that I've got so many other friends and she didn't feel she had so many, so I understand from both sides, which was why I didn't want to make a big deal of it. It's funny because one of the girls who is going is majorly jealous of my relationship with her and I always think that's so ridiculous! so I really didn't want to be doing the same thing! and sascha, try to be positive (as difficult as that may be given the cirumstances). I'm sure you'll be ok, and it's better to be safe than sorry- even if it does involve cleansing and tubes in places you'd rather they not be (hey, some people pay for that for absolutely no reason, hello colonic irrigation! ;P). I'll be thinking of you.

thesuninherhead

and aMrs, I'm presenting at the asia pacific child protection conference

Nik1202

I have a mood disorder so that almost garantees at any minute anything can be the ending of the universe...Or a party...just depends

bel138

Mostly, I am not comfortable with something in my butt when I am unconscious.When I read this, I had some sort of flashback involving your DH and a matchbox car.

MamaKin

the "prep" i had to do for a colonoscopy was just taking a shiitload (excuse the pun) of miralax.   it wasn't gross, it has absolutely no taste (you mix it in whatever you want).  but yeah, you will be attached to the bathroom for several hours when it kicks in.  it's annoying more than anything else.  the prep is the only bad part.  the colonoscopy itself was nothing, you literally will not feel/remember a thing. 

ac_in_dc

Mostly, I am not comfortable with something in my butt when I am unconscious. Oh shiit....colleen is here. She knows I am lying. This made my morning. The dog is looking at me funny, trying to figure out why I'm laughing so hard.

Pirata13

sascha--boooo for colonoscopy.  But definitely better to be on the safe side.  Another thing you might want to keep on hand is baby wipes.  Or some of those flushable moist wipes.  Better than tp.  Also from what I have heard, be prepared for the cleansing stuff to kick in pretty quick. I think when my mom had her first one, she was caught off guard at how fast it kicks in and "didn't make it" to the loo in time.  I'm pity partying myself because FI is in rehearsal for another show.  I just hate winter--definitely a winter depression gal--and the rehearsal schedule is pretty heavy. Which surprised me since it's a one-act, 2 person play.  And I love the people he is working with, they are friends, but I just hate I won't see him much.  And he had to give his schedule conflicts so far in advance that now we got an invite to my uncle's wedding reception (2nd marriage, they went to Vegas, having a picnic next weekend) and he has rehearsal. I just hate going to stuff like this alone, just because I was alone for so long and now that we're together I STILL have to do stuff alone.  I realize it's totally stupid and I'm being a baby.  I asked him the other day how many shows he plans on doing when we're married (I will probably stick with one) and he said he didn't know.  It's definitely something we have to keep talking about and agree on.  I just don't want to spend our married life with 2 months out of the year where one of us isn't in rehearsals and shows for 2 months at a time.  And now I feel even worse.  He doesn't have rehearsal tonight, he knows I'm upset about his schedule, and he just texted asking if he could make me dinner tonight.  Just makes me feel like I'm being a jerk. 

saschaduran

Yes... ac for the prize!!!!! Bel...it did NOT involve a matchbok car, hahhaha!!! That was Jackass! It did involve me eating about 100 jello shots and waking up upside down, naked, near a bottle of lube and still drunk. I then found my husband on the couch sleeping and holding his peen. Oh, what a night that was.