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Dress Dillemma

So I'll start here with some background story. I got engaged over a year ago now and went out and bought myself a gorgeous dress, my dream wedding dress. But, halfway through the planning stage I realised that I was planning a wedding, but not a future with the man I was with. We just weren't suited to each other and had very different views about absolutely everything. So I called off the wedding and left. I've since met an amazing man, we just fit together so perfectly and I don't want to have a wedding with him, I just want to spend the rest of my life with him. And, amazingly he feels the same way. So we're going to get married, but not with a huge wedding, just close friends and family and really on the cheap. My dillemma is about the dress. Thing is, I never got around to selling it or doing anything with it and it's hanging in my parents house a few thousand k's away. Obviously I'm going to talk to my fiance about this, but what is the ettiquette or how would you feel about wearing a dress you were planning on wearing to another wedding?? Considering we're doing things on a low budget and I really do love the dress?
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    As long as your FI doesn't have any discomfort over it, I say go for it.
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    If you love it and he's not weird about it, why not? Especially if you've fully paid it off now... it would definitely be cheaper than buying a new dress.
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    If you're having a much smaller, lower budget wedding, will the old dress still match the formality?
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    do you love it? does it make you feel beautiful and special? does your fiance mind? personally, i think since you didnt actually wear it in another wedding, you should use it :)
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    You could always adapt the dress--add a bolero, have the dress made into a tea length (depending on the dress)...etc.
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    It doesn't really match the tone of the new wedding, but I was thinking of altering it a bit. Taking it up to tea length and taking it in. So that would be the only cost of wearing the dress. I'm glad you guys don't seem to have a problem with it, my Mom nearly had a fit.
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    Why would your mom have a fit?  You made good decisions so far,  not marrying someone not right for you, finding a wonderful man, etc.  You never wore the dress!  Go for it and good luck!
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    If it makes you happy and your FI happy and you both feel great about it wear the dress. If you or your FI feels awkward about it get a new dress.
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    mmmm...I'm not liking this idea. Something about doesn't sit well. I think with the new man and new wedding plans you should start fresh with a new dress. Try to sell the old one to make some money to buy the new one.
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    Wear it ! It's your dream dress and you probably won't find another dress you love as much.  Any reason not to wear it would just be superstition. Wearing the dress is not going to be cause for a failed marriage or something.  That's ridiculous.
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    If you had worn it in another wedding, it would be a totally different story...lol.
     
    I think that since you plan on altering it to match the style of this wedding, its not weird. If your fiance is fine with it, I say go ahead.
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    I think wearing a dress you bought to marry one man while marrying another is weird.  Sorry.  Thats just my personal opinion.  And I think somewhere in the back of your FI's head, he IS going to think at some point "She bought that to marry someone else."   If it were me, I would start fresh and buy a dress that I think a) I will love and b) My CURRENT fiance will love.

    Maybe it won't be a problem with him or you, but why chance it?  Why put him in the position of having to say he is fine with it if he really isn't?  Just buy a new one.

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